
Heaven on Wheels
Principles of Christian Driving Psychology
Synopsis
Introduction:
Driving Psychology out of the New Testament
Chapter
1: Highway Babylon
Chapter
2: The Kings HighwayWhere we are going
Chapter 3:
Principles of Christian Driving Psychology
Synopsis
Driving Psychology out of the New
Testament
Traffic rage, road rage, aggressive driving
-- Highway Babylon --
is a spiritual crisis
of our generation. Christians need to sanctify their driving. The
Lord cares about how we treat our highway neighbor.
We need to understand
how driving is
related to the Gospels.
A Driver's Conversations with an Angel of
the Lord
Illustrating the principles of Christian
driving as viewed from the mind of one driver who undergoes sanctification. In 3 Parts.
Sunday School Activities for Building
Christian Road Morality
Lifelong driver education starts in
childhood when we establish our basic road attitudes. New Testament lessons are used as
group activities to teach road morality as a religious duty.
Facts & Stats About Driving
Knowledge about driving statistics helps you
to think prudently and wisely about driving psychology, driving safety, public policy,
driving legislation, and personal self-assessment. It also helps you instruct younger
people. See
driving informatics here.
Prayers Behind the Wheel
Giving expression to our feelings of charity
for the neighbor and love unto the Lord. Inspiring us to remember in a living way that our
driving is consecrated to the Lord.
Activities in Cars for
Christian Children
Children Against Traffic Rage
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Youth Against Traffic Rage
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Reminder Cards
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Analysis
of Driving Events ||
Lifelong
Driving
Self-improvement ||
Quality Driving Circles
Meditation and Discussion Topics on
Driving
The Lord stands at our inner door knocking,
waiting for a response from us. We need to set our house in order: Is our driving style
compatible with Christian ethics? See the
Nine Zones of your driving
personality here.
Recommended Readings
See the
Bookstore items.
Table of
Contents
Synopsis
About the Author
Introduction:
Driving Psychology out of the New Testament
Chapter
1: Highway Babylon
The Low Road and the High Road
Definition of Aggressive Driving
The Symptoms of Traffic Rage
Road Rage Around the Nation
Traffic Rage in Europe
Road Rage: A Culturally Acquired Habit
Road Rage Video Games
Driving on TV: Do We Need DBB Ratings
(Drivers Behaving Badly)?
A Family
Activity: How to Neutralize Media Portrayals of Drivers Behaving Badly
Emotional Intelligence for
DriversAnalysis of Driving Choices
The
Three-Step AWM Program for Christian
Drivers
Facts & Stats About Driving
Driving Education Activities With Children
Driving Self-Witnessing Form for Children
Driver
Self-Witnessing Exercise
Driving Log or Tape
A Drivers
Conversation with an Angel of the Lord: Part 1
Chapter
2: The Kings HighwayWhere we are going
The Need to Recognize and Accommodate to the
Diversity of Drivers
The
Trigger Theory of Anger: Convenient Fiction
The Components of
Aggressive Driving: Test Yourself Tool Kit
Three Methods for Dealing with Aggressive
Drivers
Christian
Quality Driving Circles
Inner Power Tools for the Smart Christian
Driver
Use positive self-regulatory sentences
Acquire a supportive driving philosophy
Act as-if-good when you feel like being bad
Adopt
cooperative ideals for driving and for
automobiles
Practice self-witnessing for objective
self-awareness
Regularly consider the effect of your
driving on others
Come out swinging positive when getting into
trouble with another driver or road user
Shrink your emotional territory
Lifelong
Driver Education
Activities in Cars
Prayers
Behind the Wheel
Sing to the Lord
Reminder Cards
Meditation and Discussion Topics
Christian
Affirmations for Drivers
Facts & Stats About Driving
A
Drivers Conversation with an Angel of the Lord: Part 2
Chapter
3: Principles of Christian Driving Psychology
Science
and Religion Combine
Understanding The
Psychology of Traffic Rage
Three
Types of Driving Styles: Oppositional,
Defensive, Supportive
Analysis: Why Did You Do That?
Drivers' Self-Serving Bias
Dispositional Attributions
Situational Attributions
Driver's Double Standard
Traffic Schemas
Traffic Scripts
Stereotypes
-- It's a Lady Driver
Modifying Your Driving Scripts
Pressure Tactics in Traffic
Stuck on Yellow
Lane Hopping Illusions
Freedom to be Decent
Captive Motorists
Your Moral Driving IQ
Pre-Conventional Morality
Conventional
Morality
Post-Conventional
Morality
Test Yourself
Exercise: What's your Moral Driving IQ?
Be a Traffic Witness
Partnership Driving
Reptilian Driving
Activities for Driving Self-improvement
Tailgating Behavior: Fair or Unfair?
Driving
Personality Makeovers
Greening
of the Highway
Driver
Self-Education
Personality and Behavior
Christian Driving Psychology
The Phenomenon of Traffic and the Aggressive
Response
Gender Stereotypes in Driving
The
Ten Commandments and Driving
What Are the Sins of a Driver?
What Are the Charitable Acts of a Driver?
Self-Assessment as a Driver: The Christian
Driving Log
The
Nine Zones of Your Driving Personality
SUMMARY CHART
LAYER
ISSUES INVOLVED
Zone 1--Affective Safety: Fixing Your
Driving Attitude
Zone 2--Cognitive Safety: Your Knowledge of
Safety
Zone 3 -- Sensorimotor Safety: Your
Alertness and Mistakes
Zone 4 Affective Self-control Issues:
Being Rude and Opportunistic or Not
Zone 5 -- Cognitive Self-control and
Emotional Intelligence
Zone 6 -- Sensorimotor Self-control or
Predictability and Calmness
Zone 7 -- Affective Responsibility: Egotism
or Altruism in Your Character
Zone 8 -- Cognitive Responsibility: Your
DramatizationsNegative or Positive
Zone 9 Sensory-motor Responsibility:
Your Driving StyleDislocated or Integrated
Sunday
School Activities
1. The Good Samaritan on the Highway: the
Lesson
2. The Good Samaritan on the Highway: the
Performance
3. Group Discussions on Driving
4. Mini-Sermon or Lesson on Driving
Facts & Stats About Driving
Meditation and Discussion Topics
The Ten Commandments and Driving
A Drivers
Conversation With an Angel of the Lord: Part 3
Introduction:
Driving Psychology out of the New Testament
By the rivers of Babylon, there we sat down,
yea, we wept, when we remembered Zion (Psalms 137:1).
As we stand poised on the threshold of the
third millennium of our Lord's era, a new spiritual plague has come to besiege the earth:
It is known by various phrases:
road rage,
traffic rage, driving rage,
aggressive
driving, driving under the influence, reckless driving, urgent driving, and so on.
These forms of
impaired driving,
whether chemically or psychologically induced, kill thousands of people every year on a
global scale. In the United States during any year, about 177 million drivers crash into
each other 6 million times killing over 40,000 people and seriously injuring over a
quarter of million men, women and children. Similar figures apply for the year before, and
the year before, and before for several decades. And it will be the same next year, and
the year after that, and the year after that--unless we gather
the spiritual energy to overcome this social plague.
Polls around the country indicate that
people are scared of the highway. The daily commute home for hundreds of millions of
people around the globe has become a risky, scary, unmerciful daily stress they must
endure. Some people feel its a hell hole. Others feel that its a miracle
theyve escaped this time. Millions pray before they engage the highway. Who are
these drivers who are so hostile that they have turned driving into such a mean activity?
Who are these risk-loving drivers who are so dangerous that they kill more people than
wars kill our soldiers? The majority of them are Christians.
The fact is that in our society as a whole,
made up of essential minorities as it is, Christians still outnumber non-Christians by
far. And so we must look to Christians for a solution to traffic
rage and aggressive driving. It is mostly Christians who kill each other in the
Unites States at the rate of 40,000 every year, and it is mostly Christian drivers who
injure each other 6 million times a year. This is far more than the Christians who kill or
injure each other in most other countries, including Northern Ireland, Bosnia, or Spain,
Lebanon, or other places were wars are going on.
Of course, the motive for these highway
killings is not at all the same as that of civil wars and terrorism, and this makes a huge
difference. True. Still, experts estimate that the majority of these highway injuries and
killings could be avoided if the drivers became
less aggressive and more supportive of one
another. In other words, these are Christians who unnecessarily kill and maim each other
solely because they continue to drive aggressively or poorly due to impatience,
selfishness, intolerance, and hatred.
So now the question of
the hour for every Christian driver today is, Do I care? Yes, No. Do I care if I
frighten the other driver by tailgating or lane hopping or going through red traffic
lights? Yes, No. Do I care if I break the law of the land and the law of civilized
humanity by drinking and then driving in an impaired state? Yes, No. Do I care if I feel
no compassion for other drivers, cyclists, or pedestrians? Yes, No. Is
my Christian-ness itself at stake in how I drive? Yes, No.
But a certain Samaritan, as he journeyed,
came where he was: and when he saw him, he was moved with compassion (Luke 10:33).
Enter ye in by the narrow gate: for wide is
the gate, and broad is the way, that leadeth to
destruction, and many are they that enter in thereby. For narrow is the gate, and
straitened the
way, that leadeth unto life, and few are they that find it. (Matthew 7: 13-14)
The straight and narrow path for Christian
drivers is the way of compassion, patience, tolerance, forgiveness, long suffering, ready
to be the Good Samaritan through
random acts of
kindness to other road users, always striving for driver excellence and lifelong
self-improvement for the sake of country and Heaven.
America is poised on the second century of
car society and we Christians, being the vast majority of drivers in this country, must
carry the burden of healing the nation from the spiritual plague of aggressive driving.
Already our house stands divided, some of us calling for more law enforcement, more
surveillance cameras, more radar and vascars and speed traps and special
aggressive driving
enforcement
initiatives by local police and citizen activists. Others
don’t like this trend and see it as a threat not only to privacy and
convenience, but to fundamental freedoms guaranteed by the
constitution. And still others have offered psychotherapy and anger
management clinics. These are reviewed in my
other
book.
But these are all secular solutions while
Christians need a Biblical solution since the root of the problem lies in the
drivers character and will, hence heart and spirit. Our thesis is that traffic rage,
or aggressive driving, is a spiritual syndrome and since its happening to
Christians, a Christian Bible-based doctrinal approach must be
formulated as a permanent solution to this global problem. This book is meant to be
a handbook of Christian Driving Psychology. Christian drivers and their families will now
have an authoritative and scientific doctrine for traffic behavior, fully grounded in and
inspired by the New Testament.
Its especially of concern to all of us
that we Christians are now breeding the next generation of
aggressive drivers and traffic ragers. Our children are not just passive
passengers, but are actively
imbibing our driving
style, our attitude of hostility and callousness, our cursing and swearing, and the
indignities with which we treat one another in cars and on roads. No sooner do teenagers
get that license at 15 or 16 and sit behind the wheel, on their own, that they spew out
all that they have imbibed as children. All Christians would want to stop this negative
and awful generational transmission. We dont want to continue doing this to our
children!
And He called to him a little
child, and set him in the midst of them, and said, Verily I say
unto you, Except ye turn, and become as little children, ye shall
in no wise enter into the Kingdom of Heaven. Whosoever therefore
shall humble himself as this little child, the same is the
greatest in the Kingdom of Heaven. And whoso shall receive one
such little child in My name receiveth Me: But whoso shall cause
one of these little ones that believe on Me to stumble, it is
profitable for him that a great millstone should be hanged about
his neck, and that he should be sunk in the depth of the sea.
(Matthew 18: 2-6)
Until now no book or doctrine has existed to
give Christians the intellectual and scientific power to alter this unhealthy feature of
car society. With this book, we hope to provide the impetus for Christians everywhere to
take up the helmet of faith and the breastplate of charity, and thus prepared in the Lord,
to step forth into spiritual combat in our vehicles on our highways, and to battle on to
defeat the enemy that has gotten a foothold in the heart of Christians--hostility and
hatred towards other road users, disrespect for legitimate authority, and disdain for
official safety regulations. These behaviors and attitudes behind
the wheel violate the Lords commandments that we should love and forgive one
another, and that we should respect legitimate state authority.
This evil epidemic requires Divine
intervention and power to stop. And the Lord has given us this Divine power through the
New Testament. Therefore in this book, as a solution to traffic rage, we turn first to the
sacred New Testament, and second, to the science of psychology.
Jesus therefore said unto them again,
Verily, verily, I say unto you, I am the door of the sheep. All that came before Me are
thieves and robbers: but the sheep did not hear them. I am the door; by Me if any man
enter in, he shall be saved, and shall go in and go out, and shall find pasture.
(John 10: 7-9)
Christians need
driving psychology doctrine as a personal management tool for behavior self-modification
as a driver. There is no legitimate reason for Christians to be deprived of
behavioral psychology principles when these principles are consistently related to what
the Lord teaches us in the New Testament. As Christians and as psychologists and social
scientists, we are blessed by the Lord with the intellectual tools to fashion a Christian
Driving Psychology that is behavioral and objective, and benefiting from the latest
contemporary scientific findings. We have more than forty years of experience in
scientific and scholarly investigations. We feel obligated by our Christian-ness and
rationality, thus integrity, not to keep our scientific expertise apart from our spiritual
doctrine. In this book, we unite our faith and our scientific expertise, even as we are
striving to do this in our daily lives, praying to the Lord for strength and capacity.
There are nearly one billion Christians
alive on this earth today. Though they belong to various denominations, differing in
cultural styles and doctrinal concepts, there is one basic and inmost idea that unites
them all into a single community of saints. All Christians
acknowledge the Bible as the Word of God because Jesus Christ did so when He walked on
this earth. All Christians acknowledge that the Word of God was given through
revelation for the purpose of teaching us how to live in order to be able to dwell in the
presence of the Lord. The Lord Himself taught that the essential of the Word is contained
in the Commandments and that these teach how we must live in order to dwell with Him and
in Him.
All things therefore whatsoever ye would
that men should do unto you, even so do ye also unto them: for this is the law and the
prophets. (Matthew 7:12)
Whosoever therefore shall break one of these
least commandments, and shall teach men so, shall be called least in the kingdom of
heaven: but whosoever shall do and teach them, he shall be called great in the kingdom of
heaven. (Matthew 5:19)
Teacher, which is the great commandment in
the law? And He said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and
with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the great and first commandment. And a
second like unto it is this, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. On these two
commandments the whole law hangeth, and the prophets. (Matthew 22: 36-40)
And a certain ruler asked Him, saying, Good
Teacher, what shall I do to inherit eternal life? And Jesus said unto him, Why callest
thou Me good? none is good, save one, even God. Thou knowest the commandments, Do not
commit adultery, Do not kill, Do not steal, Do not bear false witness, Honor thy father
and mother. (Luke 18: 18-20)
All the commandments can be summarized in
the Lord's Two Great Commandments (Mark 12: 39-41). We must love the Lord and we must love
the neighbor. If we fail to perform these two commandments, we fail the Lord, and we fail
our faith, our charity, our salvation. In this book, we apply the essential truth of the
Lord's commandments to our thoughts and actions in traffic. There is no time
out in the eyes of the Lord. His presence is constant. It is our own response to Him
that is inadequate when we fail to hate what He hates: and that is, the spirit of the
anti-Christ buried in the heart of Christian drivers and causing the highway carnage every
day and every hour of the day.
Behold, I stand at the door and knock: if
any man hear my voice and open the door, I will come in to him, and will sup with him, and
he with Me. (Revelation 3:20)
In these chapters, you
will find a Christian Bible-based applied theology of driving. The Christian needs
a powerful and truthful sacred rhetoric by which to oppose the cultural practices of
aggressive driving and emotional violence. The moral rearmament of Christian drivers needs
a doctrinal basis that they can understand and agree with, and also grow by. In the New
Testament, the Lord has given us the psychological rhetoric that we need to be able to
oppose the social evils within ourselves that destroy the spiritual life of society and
corrupts the soul of all its citizens.
He answered and said, And who is He, Lord,
that I may believe on Him? Jesus said unto him, Thou hast both seen Him, and He it is that
speaketh with thee. And he said, Lord, I believe. And he worshipped Him. (John 9:
36-38)
This book provides Christians with the
spiritual power tools that the Lord has given us in the New Testament. Using only the
Lord's direct teachings, we show how they apply to our thoughts and intentions behind the
wheel. Years of experience with research and teaching has given us the knowledge of
analyzing the thoughts and feelings that drivers
have in traffic, and how these internal activities connect with the Lord's
commandments.
Through study of
driving psychology principles, and
through various activities while driving, we show readers how our acts and intentions as
drivers can be continuously purified from anger and pride using the Word of God to
transform ourselves. The Christian quest for road peace will
transform the killing roads into a Kings Highway.
And Babylon, the glory of kingdoms, the
beauty of the Chaldeans' pride, shall be as when God overthrew Sodom and Gomorrah.
(Isaiah13:19).
The social crisis of road rage actually
provides Christians with a great spiritual opportunity to Christianize the
highway by imbuing our minds with Christian driving rules from the New Testament. Our
entire nation will become stronger and more united in all walks of life, not just on the
highway. We can be spiritual models in the world even as we are economic and industrial
leaders that benefit all the countries. By becoming Christian in our driving, we are
growing stronger as Americans and we are strengthening the bonds that tie us to our
Constitution. In short, we are protecting the family and our children from spiritual as
well as physical breakdown.
No man, when he hath lighted a lamp, putteth
it in a cellar, neither under the bushel, but on the stand, that they which enter in may
see the light. (Luke 11:33)
I am the good shepherd; and I know mine own,
and mine own know me. My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me:
10:28and I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, and no one shall
snatch them out of my hand. (John 10:14; 27-28)
Put on therefore, as God's elect, holy and
beloved, a heart of compassion, kindness, lowliness, meekness, longsuffering;
forbearing one another, and forgiving each other, if any man have a complaint against any;
even as the Lord forgave you, so also do ye: and above all these things put on love,
which is the bond of perfectness. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts,
to which also ye were called in one body; and be ye thankful. Let the word of Christ
dwell in you richly; in all wisdom teaching and admonishing one another with psalms and
hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts unto God. And
whatsoever ye do, in word or in deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks
to God the Father through Him. (Colossians 3: 12-17)
Christians have a unique contribution to
make to our driving problem in this country, and indeed around the globe. We can lead the
transformation of Highway Babylon into The Kings Highway. People
around the globe will say, Americas Christians are true to their religion as drivers
because they turn the other cheek when struck, as commanded them by their Messiah.
People will say, "The drivers in America, who are mostly Christians, are the only
drivers in the world who are not aggressive and competitive. They are
supportive drivers, sharing opportunities to get
ahead and caring for one another. No one is left behind intentionally, if by some relapse
someone gets shafted, insulted, or denigrated by someone else, the latter immediately
regrets it, feels guilt and shame, repents and asks the Lord for forgiveness, and quickly
makes up for it by being extra nice, extra careful and compassionate to others. O, how
altruistic! O, how wise and loving! O, let us follow the Christians, let us be supportive
drivers too. Our God will reward us for it."
Ye are the light of the world. A
city set on a hill cannot be hid. Neither do men light a lamp, and
put it under the bushel, but on the stand; and it shineth unto all
that are in the house. Even so let your light shine before men;
that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is
in heaven. (Matthew 5: 14-16)
Fellow Christians, do you enjoy that
futuristic projection of The Kings Highway, now coming to us in our hearts and
spirit and mind? This is a special historical moment for our religion, and for the
universe. Poised upon the third millennium of our Lords era and the second century
of car society, Christians are given to feel this psycho-biological and spiritual crossing
point in humanitys history and development. The Holy Spirit is active within us to
the extent of our willing cooperation in our sanctification process, thus in our spiritual
growth and character reformation, transformation, and regeneration.
The behavioral arena of driving is a special
and sacred opportunity offered to us by the Lord. We must
understand the nature of the psychological resistance we offer to our sanctification.
Christian driving psychology gives us this understanding because, first, it is a
collection of New Testament verses arranged in an order to create a Gospel
Driving Doctrine. This doctrine must be taken cognizance of and adopted as our
guiding principle to replace the current secular driving philosophy we have from highway
babylon. And second, Christian driving psychology gives us
scientifically engineered inner power tools to help us manage ourselves as drivers.
The outer natural self that actually does
most of the driving, must be brought into alignment and obedience with the spiritual inner
self. This inner self is where our rational capacities are. Here we can reason in
accordance with the Gospel Driving Doctrine we have fashioned for ourselves as a guide to Christian highway use. We can always interact with the
Holy Spirit directly through our conscience. Thus we are given the power to live our faith
as drivers and get away from the current lip service approach we have in highway babylon.
And by suffering ourselves to undergo this character transformation as drivers, we gain in
all ways imaginable, and beyond that. This affirmation merits elaborating further since it
is so hopeful and pleasant.
Yes, we need not be sad on account of
the cross we must bear in this radical
transformation
of our driving personality. At first, Satan wants to discourage us from even
attempting anything at all. Dear Christian, as you read this book, do you feel a sense of
distaste and even nausea at times, perhaps discouraged at the personal effort that lies
ahead? That is our temptation! Our outward natural self feels threatened by this book,
even unto death. Yes, it knows that when the Christian in you takes over as manager behind
the wheel, it is like Mr. Clean and the terror stricken germs. After all, we know that it
is not our own power that overcomes in temptation, for Jesus alone has the power to
overcome this world. And so, what power can the devil yield over us? None. Therefore we
are confident and sure that our character transformation as drivers can and will take
placeif we cooperate willingly in our sanctification by the Holy Spirit.
Everyone can see that if our cooperation
were not needed, the Lord would transform everyone in an instant from crazy driver to sane
driver. Would He not? He is pure love and pure mercy, and All Powerful. We must think of
Him as already doing all that He can, given the restrictions He has imposed on Himself,
namely, never to interfere with our spiritual choices. Why is this restriction so
important and above all other restrictions? Because without it we cannot be human, or
loving, or rational, or wise, hence we cannot be saints in eternity in the Lord in His
heaven. If the Lord in His Divine Omnipotence, would utter a Divine command by which all
drivers suddenly were rendered incapable of aggressive acts and thoughts, there would no
longer be any car crashes and all highway stress and danger would no longer exist. But
would those drivers be human? No. They would be robotic automatons activated by Gods
mind, not our own. We would not be capable of freely choosing to love God and consciously,
as-of-self, work out the details of our lives.
In that sorry world, the Lord would be
alone, weeping, because His children are all gone. No, the Lord cannot force us to love
Him, but must patiently wait until we agree to it from ourselves, as-if of ourselves, and
acknowledging that it is from Him alone. To accomplish this amazing interaction between
God and us, we must always believe that all the power comes from the Lord and none comes
from ourselves. Yet we must not wait as a stock for inspiration to act. It is our very own
personal and unique striving to act from the Lord that constitutes our eternal happiness,
joy, and blessedness. It is in this striving that our spiritual
life prospers and grows in sanctification. And without this striving, the Lord
is shut out and waits patiently, knocking until we open the door to Him, which means,
doing His commandments.
Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the
midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and
harmless as doves. (Matthew 10:16)
Christian Driving Psychology gives the know
how for this necessary cooperation between us individually and the Lord. The Lord gives us
Christian Driving Psychology through our rational and scientific mind. The Lord wants us
to go out and conquer the world and profit from all that He has planted in this earthly
garden for our benefit. This includes all the orderly pleasures and fun of everyday life
that we have access to through culture, society, community, and family life. If the
principles and activities in this book seem too hard or not worth it, think again, friend.
Do not let the devil have the upper hand in your temptations. Think of all the benefits
you can experience.
As a Christian driver on The Kings
Highway you are cruising along in a restful mental state, alert and confident. You are
happy and grateful. You feel friendship and community towards the drivers around you. You
look on them with favor, pleasantly, because you are pleased to see them, to see them
progressing safely, and you wish them well. You feel free in your emotions. You are not
subject to the awful law of talons, eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth, insult for an
insult, retaliation for attack. You are Christian, through and through, outside and
inside. Like Peter, you finally suffered yourself to allow the Lord of the universe to
wash your feet. You have bathed all over by suffering yourself to do the work of
transformation from aggressive to tame driver. That was your morality for the sake of your
spirituality and religion. You are a sanctified driver.
And the King shall answer and say
unto them, Verily I say unto you, Inasmuch as ye did it unto one
of these My brethren, even these least, ye did it unto Me. Then
shall He say also unto them on the left hand, Depart from Me, ye
cursed, into the eternal fire which is prepared for the devil and
his angels. Then shall He answer them, saying, Verily I say unto
you, Inasmuch as ye did it not unto one of these least, ye did it
not unto Me. And these shall go away into eternal punishment: but
the righteous into eternal life. (Matthew 25: 40-41, 45-46)
Turn back, O man, forswear thy foolish ways.
Christ for the world we sing! The world to Christ we bring, with one accord; With us the
work to share, With us reproach to dare, With us the cross to bear, For Christ our Lord.
(Christian song)
Selection
from Chapter 1
As social scientists interested in the
driver-car-road ecosystem, we have studied the thoughts and feelings of drivers for many
years, not just our own, but those of hundreds of drivers, Christian drivers, and
non-Christian. For instance, in our Internet
Road Rage Survey on the Web, 94% of
American and Canadian drivers admit they engage in aggressive driving behaviors such as
driving over the speed limit, going through a red light, ignoring stop signs, changing
lanes without signaling, preventing another driver from entering your lane, yelling and
making obscene gestures. The majority of drivers admit to swearing, cussing, cursing,
insulting, and enjoying fantasies of violence, punishment, retaliation, or torture. About
one in four drivers admit to hostile and aggressive acts such as cutting off to retaliate,
tailgating dangerously, braking suddenly to punish a tailgater, revving the engine, or
chasing another car and threatening physical violence. We know that at least 80% of the
national sample includes Christians of all denominations. It is clear therefore, that the
majority of Christians are aggressive in their driving at times, and some people, nearly
all the time.
Dear DrDriving,
During the holidays a friend of mine was
taken victim to an incident of road rage and was killed in the process. He was parking in
a space when a group of males in another car decided they didn't want to wait around for
their own car space so they decided to impinge on my friends space. When the group
realized that he was not going to let them just have the spot they decided to take the
issue way too far. They got out of their car, pulled my friend out of his car bashed him
until he was unconscious and then put him in their car. After this the group drove off,
proceeded to a speed of 120 kms and then threw my friend from the car onto the road. My
friend hit his head on the road, smashing it open and later died.
I have never realized the true extent of
what happens in road rage. Naively I assumed that road rage was abuse being yelled between
cars, people getting followed, getting the finger, and having the occasional fight. But
the fact that people are getting murdered over things like a parking spot is unbelievable
and terribly horrific.
Looking up road rage on the net has shown me
that some people seem to take the approach that road rage is a light hearted matter. That
pulling over and abusing people is okay sometimes, that hitting or bashing someone because
of their conflicting ability to drive to their own is in someway acceptable. These people
really should stop taking this matter as amusing or minor. This is a very serious matter.
People are getting killed for the sake of parking their car, for driving 5 kms under the
speed limit when youre in a hurry, and for making a mistake on their way to wherever
they are going.
A frightened traveler
This is Highway Babylon. The
Christians disregard of Christs Commandments. Friends, we have discovered
within ourselves a cultural conspiracy kept alive by the spirit of anti-Christ. We have
imbibed this anti-Christian philosophy of driving through our socialization process. Just
look around you and youll see how we are currently training our children to grow up
to become the next wave of Highway Babylon. Look at our own history, yours and ours. As
infants we sat and rode in our parents cars, witnessing their impatience and hostile
attitude towards other drivers.
Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that
heareth my word, and believeth him that sent me, hath eternal life, and cometh not into
judgment, but hath passed out of death into life. (John 5:24)
Growing up as Christians children, we are
not allowed to swear and were punished with disapproval and a reprimand whenever we forgot
the rules. But no sooner did we enter our parents cars, the rules seemed to change,
to be turned upside down. Christ-loyalty suddenly turned into
Babylon compulsion. The traffic Dragon suddenly roared its ugly mean head
and took over our head, even as our Christian spirit sank into our seat. No longer
compassion, but retaliation. No longer forgiveness, but condemnation and the desire to
punish. No longer the spirit of communion, but the spirit of
envious competition, intolerance, hatred and vengeance.
Dear DrDriving:
Hello, my name is Jane. I have found
myself to be very concerned in the manner in which I drive every minute, every day now. My
brother, Robert of Champaign, IL was involved with road rage on July 3, 1997, during
morning rush hour. He was found guilty of involuntary manslaughter and sentenced to 5
years in prison. He had caused an incident on the highway that morning that resulted in
the death of a 40-year old woman. She panicked when my brother slammed his brakes on in
front of her, causing her to lose control of her vehicle and cross the grass median. She
was ejected from her vehicle (not wearing seatbelt, nonetheless) and killed.
I know that people feel rage every day on
the roads, and it scares me to death. I fear for my children and family, as people drive
on our roads with no respect for their fellow man, let alone for themselves. I know that
what my brother did was wrong. It sure has taught me an important lesson. I wish that the
police, state patrol, etc., would start to toughen up on people that are inconsiderate
when driving. I wanted to let you know how I was feeling. Thank you.
For years we sat in our parents cars and
imbibed the adulterous philosophy of aggressive driving. No sooner that society gives us
the privilege to drive, no sooner that we lower our prideful selves into the car seat and
grab the wheel with both hands, licensed at last, we turn into one of those dragons that
make the life of highway babylon. We become the very image of the Beast as we model our
driving style according to what we witness dozens of times every day on TVdrivers
behaving badly, and glorifying in it.
Every one therefore that heareth these words
of mine, and doeth them, shall be likened unto a wise man, who built his house upon the
rock And every one that heareth these words of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened
unto a foolish man, who built his house upon the sand (Matthew 7:24, 26)
Licensed to kill. Every year between 40,000
and 50,000 Christian drivers kill each other on highway babylon in the U.S. We crash into
each other 6 million times a year and then we spend 200 billion dollars to pay for the
yearly monetary consequences. Of course, the pain and suffering, and the anguish and
unhappiness, are not included in these figures. Obviously, with 60 million crashes every
ten years, considering only the effect upon the immediate family, more than 200 million
Americans are negatively affected in a direct way by highway babylon. Thats the
un-Godly situation that we are addressing in this book.
We have a Christian answer to traffic rage
and highway intemperance and madness.
And shall come forth; they that have done
good, unto the resurrection of life; and they that have done evil, unto the resurrection
of damnation. (John 5:29)
And it starts with the center of our faith.
Fellow Christians, we have had to start with this Bible-based principle: to examine
ourselves in traffic through the objective lenses of self-witnessing behind the wheel. We
had to look at our thoughts, at our feelings, and our overt actionsas reflections of
our personality and character. We had to accept the idea that driving
is made up of a sequence of operations we perform mentally, physically, and spiritually.
For instance, the average daily commute for
the majority of Americans is 28 minutes (sure feels like its more, does'ntt
it?). During this short half-hour, twice a day, five times a week, we engage in several
hundred mini-encounters every week, and thousands of mini-exchanges with other drivers
every year. We started with a basic and simple question: how many of these mini-exchanges
are loving and how many are hateful?
We started carrying a tape recorder in the
car and made ourselves speak our thoughts out loud as we were driving. Its an
awkward thing to do and we experienced resistance and discouragement, embarrassment and
rebellion. Yet by praying to the Lord and asking for strength to continue, we accumulated
such tapes from hundreds of drivers. We each analyzed our own tapes, as well as listened
to the tapes of others, and read their analyses.
The proof was obvious and conclusive. With few exceptions, all drivers participate in the destructive
spirit of highway babylon. Its a cultural phenomenon, and a direct
and dangerous attack on our Christian future as a society. At this very moment, we are
training the next generation of highway babylon, as we drive them around in traffic,
cursing and swearing at other drivers, and breaking and violating the laws of the land,
ignoring human rights and the spirit of dignity enjoined upon us by our blessed
Constitution.
Jesus said unto her, I Am the Resurrection,
and the Life: he that believeth on Me, though he die, yet shall he live; and whosoever
liveth and believeth on Me shall never die. Believest thou this? She saith unto Him, Yea,
Lord: I have believed that Thou art the Christ, the Son of God, even He that cometh into
the world. (John 11: 25-27)
A Family
Activity: How to Neutralize Media Portrayals of Drivers Behaving Badly
Jehovah shall cover thee under His wings.
(Psalms. 91:4).
Keep me as the apple of the eye, hide me
under the shadow of Thy wings. (Psalms. 17:8).
How excellent is Thy lovingkindness, O God!
therefore the children of men put their trust under the shadow of Thy wings. (Psalms.
36:7).
Unto you shall be healing in His wings.
(Malachi. 4:2).
As an eagle that stirreth up her nest, That
fluttereth over her young, He spread abroad His wings, He took them, He bare them on His
pinions. Jehovah alone did lead Him, And there was no foreign god with Him. (Deuteronomy.
32:11, 12).
Jesus said, O Jerusalem, how often would I
have gathered thy children together, even as a hen gathereth her chickens under her wings.
(Matthew. 23:37; Luke 13:34).
1. Discuss this project with your entire
family and enlist everybodys help. Explain that the purpose is to create a list of
television shows that portray scenes of drivers behaving badlymovies,
sit-coms, cartoons, commercials, videotapes. If you like, you can also include electronic
games as well as books and magazines.
2. You need to write down the following
specific information about each episode you witness:
- date
- time
- channel/network
- name of program
- type of program (e.g., car commercial, other
commercial, cartoon for young kids, scene in a movie or serial, etc.).
- a specific description of the bad driving
behavior
6. Have a family group discussion and talk
about each observation in terms of how it might influence the driving attitude, style, and
morality of the children and drivers who are exposed to such scenes over and over again
for several years.
7. Parents and older children can discuss
how these media portrayals of drivers behaving badly could have influenced their own
driving style.
8. Discuss how you can improve this activity
and share it with other families. One activity that goes a little further is to develop a
rating scale that would give you an overall score for each show. Here is an example:
- Prominence throughout the course of the
program, how much importance and emphasis the scene had.
- How realistic was the scene, is it something
that could be easily reproduced by people who watched it.
- Danger involved, did the sequence pose a
threat to the driver or other vehicles, drivers or pedestrians.
The rating for each category goes from 1
(very mild form) to 10 (very intense form). You can assign a weighting scheme that you
deem appropriate. One way is to give a maximum number of points to each category:
- Prominence 0-3
- Realistic nature 0-3
- Danger Involved 0-4
- Total possible10
Here is an example in which this DBB rating
scheme was used:
Program: The Mighty Ducks
Day: Tuesday
Date: 10/14/97
Time: 7:30 am
Channel: 5 - KFVE
Description of Events
The Mighty Ducks are driving in their All-Terrain Vehicle down a street when they
encountered a nemesis who is looking to cause some trouble. The program itself was half
and hour and this scene took up approximately a minute and forty seconds. In the list of
behaviors, car A will be the Mighty Ducks (the good guys) and car B will be the nemesis.
Specific Behaviors
- Car A travels down the middle of the road
instead of staying in the proper lane.
- The bad guy in car B approaches car A head on
in the middle of the road and begins firing a gun that is attached to the roof of his car.
- Car A pulls a U-turn in the middle of the
road, goes into "assault mode" and begins returning fire to car B.
- Car A and B sideswipe each other, but both
keep driving.
- Car B shoots car A with a laser and sends it
flying into a building where debris begins to fall on it.
- One of the passengers from car A jumps onto
car B and drops in a grenade that causes it to explode in the middle of the road.
Analysis and Evaluation
Absolutely no concern is expressed for other
drivers or pedestrians that may be in the surrounding area by either the good guys or the
bad guy.
The depiction of scenes where the cars
sideswipe each other is very poorly representative of actual car accidents where damage to
cars and possible injury to passengers often occurs.
When car A collides with the building and
the debris begins to fall on the vehicle, everyone is able to jump out of the car without
any injury. This is highly unrealistic and a poor model for how people actually experience
real life accidents.
Rating
Prominence: 2
Realistic Nature: 1
Danger Involved: 3
Total score 6
A new commandment I give unto you, that ye
love one another; even as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. By this shall
all men know that ye are My disciples, if ye have love one to another.. (John 13: 34-35)
Over the past half century of television
society, psychologists and educators have come to understand how violence portrayed on TV
influences children and adults. The mechanism of transfer is imitation when identifying
with the role model. When the conditions give people an opportunity, they are tempted to
imitate what they have seen performed by a role model. A common belief has that we have
nothing to fear from TV because we all know that it portrays fantasy and drama rather than
reality. This belief does not take into account the mechanism of role modeling which goes
on with or without the conscious awareness of the individual.
All observant parents can see this effect in
their children. Children are copy cats. Children are influenced by what they see. Observe
some commercials yourself: even adults have a difficult time telling exactly which part is
real and which is fake. When you see driving scenes, it is often difficult to tell whether
the actor is actually driving or whether the car is being towed. Nor is it easy to tell
when a scene has been edited, cut, or tampered in any way, so that the timing and the
sequence appear real but actually are not. Thus, our standard of whats real has been
influenced or confused by our inability to tell on TV whats real and whats
not.
In one scene we witnessed today (Goodburger),
a lunch wagon truck was racing through town causing all sorts of crashes. The driver and
his companion were both teenagers and they showed no care or remorse for the havoc they
were causing. Instead, they were gleeful. A delivery truck was behind them, trying to keep
up and investigate. The two teenagers driving the lunch wagon truck started throwing food
and drinks out of the car so that it all seemed to splatter on the pursuing truck's
windshield. Along with throwing, the teenagers were laughing and partying and wanting to
increase their mayhem. The delivery truck now had its windshield totally covered with
food, yet it kept driving.
Look at the childrens faces who are
watching these scenes, and look at the adults faces. What do you see? Smiles,
cheers, amusement, excitement. Not concern, not shock, not dismay, not disapproval. Its naïve to see this powerful psychological involvement and
then expect no influence. Both children and adults imbibe these scenes and the
fun and excitement they experience stamps it into their affective mind, where it lurks
near the heart, weakening the spirit. Conscience is weakened. Resolve to be good is
weakened. Reality parameters are made fusize="3y. Standards are overstepped and made acceptable
in some ways. Additional discussion on DBB ratings
may be found here.
A Driver's Conversation with an Angel of the
Lord: Part 1
So shall it be in the end of the world: the
angels shall come forth, and sever the wicked from among the righteous, and shall cast
them into the furnace of fire: there shall be the weeping and the gnashing of teeth.
(Matthew 13: 49-50)
Judge not, that ye be not judged. For with
what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be
measured unto you. And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but
considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye? Or how wilt thou say to thy brother,
Let me cast out the mote out of thine eye; and lo, the beam is in thine own eye? Thou
hypocrite, cast out first the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly
to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye. (Matthew 7: 1-5).
I was considering these points and wondering
whether I was a Christian driver or not. I was feeling very annoyed at the traffic. This
red light is so long for some strange reason. Maybe it's the pedestrians. I felt my teeth
gritting against each other. Suddenly an Angel of the Lord was
sitting on the passenger seat and I was frozen with surprise and awe. My mouth
was open and I could not speak. He spoke with a musical tone in perfect American English.
"Cactus Tree, you better get moving.
The people behind you are getting very anxious."
Then I heard the honking and I realized I
had been hearing the honking for quite some time. My automatic self sprang into motion and
drove the car for me. I let it take over. My conscious mind was busize="3ing with too many
threads for me to disentangle any one of them. I knew he was an Angel of the Lord. I knew
internally. It was an amazing experience. I just saw it in my mind's eye, or in spiritual
light. And I hear myself say to him:
"Why did you call me Cactus Tree?"
"Because that's what I see when I look
at you. In the spiritual world people appear to each other according to their inner nature
or character, and when I approached you I saw you as a cactus tree, a desert plant
surrounded by sand, rocks, scorpions, and heat without moisture, yet inside of you I could
see moisture, water, sweetness, and playfulness, like jelly when it is shaken."
I was astounded, hardly knowing what to do
with these analogies. I put aside so I can think about it later. Right now I wanted to
know what this supernatural visit meant. Why me? Why now? The Angel of the Lord seemed to
know my questions and proceeded to answer me.
"I was taking my daily walk in my
garden adjacent to my house in which I live with my beloved wife, and lo, I saw you down
below, in your car and I wished that I could come to you and comfort you. As soon as I
begged the Lord to grant me the wish, I found myself sitting in your car next to
you."
I did not answer. I was busy thinking to
myself. That's it? Could it be that simple? This is not some historical earth-shattering
event in which I was chosen to play a central role. No. This is just some angel somewhere
in the universe who happened to see me in his meditations and was granted the wish to be
here. What kind of an angel story is that? Besides aren't things supposed to be angelic
when angels appear? How come I'm still in a lousy mood. How come this stupid traffic is
getting slower instead of faster? How come this idiot ahead of me is not closing the gap?
How come it has to rain so it slows things down even more, especially these Sunday drivers
who don't know their skids from their lids...Ha, ha, ha.
"I see that you use the expression
'Sunday drivers.' When you thought of the word Sunday my mind was filled with brilliant
light on account of the fact that Sunday is the Lord's Day, and when we think of the Lord,
light fills us from our core outward. But it also saddens me to see that you use that
sacred word to belittle and denigrate the drivers that your will does not favor. On
account of that discrimination in your will, your spirit is filled with a dark cloud that
absorbs the light of Heaven, and your mind is shut to rationality and truth. It is then
filled with irrationality and falsities."
While the Angel of the Lord was speaking to
me I was able to see the truth of what he was saying. I saw it in clear light, from
within. My mind's inner eye received the light to see it. But when he stopped talking I
seemed to return to the exact point I was before--feeling lousy and mean and wanting to do
something dangerous. Damn, damn, I thought to myself, I'm going to miss my exit ramp. I
forced my way into the right lane. The driver behind me had to brake sharply to avoid
hitting me. I was gritting my teeth, trying not to say out loud what I actually felt on
account of the Angel. I looked over to side again, astonished. The Angel had vanished!
I felt remorseful, ashamed. How could I
swear right in front of the Angel of the Lord! I asked forgiveness and the suddenly the
angel was back.
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Selections from Chapter 2
The
Trigger Theory of Anger: Convenient Fiction
A University of Michigan study found that
women tend to choose distraction to cope with anger, while men choose rumination and
distraction equally. Evidence indicates that dwelling on anger increases its intensity,
while distraction reduces it. Experts now believe that anger is as much of a risk for
heart disease, in both sexes, as cholesterol, smoking, or high blood pressure.
Aggressiveness is a response to the feeling of loss of power. The aggressor actually feels
like the victim, feels justified in retaliating, and uses physical and verbal retaliation
as a means to restore the self-pride or dignity that was 'robbed' by the other person's
'stupid' or 'inconsiderate' behavior. However, this is a short-term physiological relief,
while in the long run, the opposite is in fact the case. The aggressor's conscience
inwardly convicts, and the aggressor feels guilt, remorse, or 'out of control.'
Many people believe in the trigger-theory of
anger which sees traffic ragers as maladjusted individuals who need therapy to help them
manage their intense anti-social emotions. For this reason, anger management therapies and
stress control programs have been around for decades for those who can afford
psychotherapy. However, applying this psychotherapeutic approach to drivers in general
will have limited success because traffic rage is a generic, cultural problem and not an
individual mental problem.
The problem is not so much the presence of
anger itself, but uninhibited aggressiveness. Our cultural norms permit the expression of
hostility among drivers. This became clear when we analyzed the self-witnessing reports of
many drivers. They felt justified in their traffic rage. They were proud of their
aggressiveness. There was hardly any recognition of unfairness or consciousness of wrong
doing. For example, in a general poll, less than 1 in 4 individuals believed that
tailgating is a moral issue!
The fuel that drives aggressiveness on the
road is the false assumption that it's the action of the other driver that makes us
hostile, that triggers our aggressive response. But the offending act does not
automatically trigger the aggressive response, it merely creates an opportunity for an
attack in order to express righteous indignation.
If other drivers were the trigger, you'd
have no choice but to be aggressive every time something goes wrong. Yet this isn't what
happens. Drivers only retaliate sometimes, not every time. Some drivers never retaliate
overtly, though they want to. For Christians, 'wanting to retaliate' is a spiritual
temptation that hurts us when we stop disapproving of it. Merely having the feeling of
anger and the desire to retaliate is not itself a sin of which we're guilty because it is
our inherited nature as creatures of earth, as well as our acquired nature by growing up
in this society. The guilt or spiritual damage to ourselves starts when we choose to
approve of it.
To approve of our desire to retaliate is
spiritually corrupting and puts dark clouds between ourselves and the Lord who stands at
our door, waiting for us to reject our aggressiveness and desire to retaliate. The Lord's
nature is meek and our harshness keeps meekness out.
Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit
the earth. (Matthew 5:5)
Take My yoke upon you, and learn of Me; for
I Am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. (Matthew 11:29)
Tell ye the daughter of Zion, Behold, thy
King cometh unto thee, meek, and sitting upon an ass, and a colt the foal of an ass.
(Matthew 21:5)
And when he had taken the book, the four
beasts and four and twenty elders fell down before the Lamb, having every one of them
harps, and golden vials full of odors, which are the prayers of saints. (Revelation 5:8)
And every creature which is in heaven, and
on the earth, and under the earth, and such as are in the sea, and all that are in them,
heard I saying, Blessing, and honor, and glory, and power, be unto Him that sitteth upon
the throne, and unto the Lamb for ever and ever. (Revelation 5:13)
The harshness and heartlessness of
retaliation is the old law that was necessary for savage hearts, the very mentality that
Christ came to reject and overcome:
I Am the Resurrection and the Life he that
believeth in Me, though he die, yet shall he live; and whosoever liveth and believeth in
Me shall never die (John 11:25, 26).
Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye
for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth: But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but
whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also. (Matthew 5:
38-39)
So also will My heavenly Father do unto you,
if ye from the heart forgive not every one his brother their trespasses (Matthew 18:35).
The recognition that we are responsible for
our aggressive reactions is both spiritual and secular. In 1997 safety officials and
government and citizen activists, have officially switched from the word
"accident" to "crash." The rest of the population is still catching up
to this new word usage. But it's not merely a name switch-it's a totally new confession.
By using "crash" instead of "accident" we are now making an about turn
in society. "Accident" was used throughout the first century of car society, but
"crash" begins the second century, and the third millennium. By using it you're
making the affirmation that when a motor vehicle causes damage or injury, the driver is to
be presumed guilty. The presumed guilty driver will then have to prove that in this
specific instance, there is no guilt, if indeed there is not. With "accident"
one is presumed innocent; with "crash" one is presumed guilty--either one of the
drivers, or both.
The Components
of Aggressive Driving: Test Yourself Tool Kit
Here is one of the test-yourself inventories
we use for drivers who want to change their driving style. By reading the items and how
they are organized and scored, you can identify the specific elements that constitute your
own aggressive driving. The following 20 items are arranged along a continuum of
escalating degrees of hostility experienced by drivers, beginning with relatively milder
forms of aggressiveness (step 1) and going all the way to ultimate violence (step 20). How
far down the un-Christian road do you sometimes allow yourself to go behind the wheel? The
majority of drivers we tested go as far as step 13. How about you?
1. Mentally condemning other drivers.
2. Verbally denigrating other drivers to a
passenger in your vehicle.
3. Closing ranks to deny someone entering
your lane because you're frustrated or upset.
4. Giving another driver the "stink
eye" to show your disapproval.
5. Speeding past another car or revving the
engine as a sign of protest.
6. Preventing another driver from passing
because you're mad.
7. Tailgating to pressure a driver to go
faster or get out of the way.
8. Fantasizing physical violence against
another driver.
9. Honking or yelling at someone through the
window to indicate displeasure.
10. Making a visible obscene gesture at
another driver.
11. Using your car to retaliate by making
sudden, threatening maneuvers.
12. Pursuing another car in chase because of
a provocation or insult.
13. Getting out of the car and engaging in a
verbal dispute, on a street or parking lot.
14. Carrying a weapon in the car in case you
decide to use it in a driving incident.
15. Deliberately bumping or ramming another
car in anger.
16. Trying to run another car off the road
to punish the driver.
17. Getting out of the car and beating or
battering someone as a result of a road exchange.
18. Trying to run someone down whose actions
angered you.
19. Shooting at another car.
20. Killing someone.
| The
Unfriendly Zone: |
Items 1 to 3 |
mental
and verbal acts of unkindness towards other drivers. |
| The
Hostile Zone: |
Items 4 to 7 |
visibly
communicating one's displeasure or resentment, with the desire to punish. |
| The
Violent Zone: |
Items 8 to 11 |
carrying
out an act of hostility, either in fantasy or deed. |
| The
Lesser Mayhem Zone: |
Items 12 to 16 |
epic
road rage contained within one's personal limits. |
| The
Major Mayhem Zone: |
Items 17 to 20 |
uncontained
epic road rage, the stuff of newspaper stories. |
From a driver in an electronic
newsgroup discussion: I agree: people who drive too slowly in the fast lane cause danger
and frustration to others on the road, and probably should stick to the side roads if
possible. BUT, aggressive driving is just as bad if not worse, causing innocent people to
be hurt or killed. By aggressive, I'm not talking about driving fast. A lot of roads are
built to handle fast driving. I'm talking about people who take their frustrations out on
others while driving. Immature, heartless, brainless, dangerous people who think that when
someone cuts them off in traffic they have to get revenge, consequently endangering the
lives of everyone who happens to be driving near them.
I have lost people dear to me because of
people who think just like you. You probably think that there's this club of "slow
ass" drivers on the road just to make you mad. I have news for you--you're not that
special! I don't know if you're the kind of person who freaks out on the road, but if you
do I'd like to make my point very clear: As far as I'm concerned, aggressive driving is
like waving a loaded gun in a public place. People who do it should be prosecuted. They
are one step away from being murderers.
Whosoever therefore shall break one of these
least commandments, and shall teach men so, shall be called least in the Kingdom of
Heaven: but whosoever shall do and teach them, he shall be called great in the Kingdom of
Heaven. For I say unto you, that except your righteousness shall exceed the righteousness
of the scribes and Pharisees, ye shall in no wise enter into the Kingdom of Heaven.
(Matthew 5: 19-20)
Lifelong
Driver Education
If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk
in the Spirit. (Galatians 5:25)
It is a well known that the traditional
driver's ed. has remained inadequate as the means for teaching full competence and
knowledge of safety, and only satisfies the bare minimum for getting driver's licenses
into the hands of millions of young people. Even less attention is given to teaching
emotional intelligence skills. The result is that most drivers are ill-prepared to manage
their intense emotions behind the wheel. We propose that henceforth driver education
should be taught K-12 for
Emotional
Intelligence Skills on the road:
- As pedestrians, how to behave towards drivers
·
- How to behave as passengers ·
- How to deal with hostility expressed by
drivers ·
- How to deal with peer pressure in highway
situations ·
- How to develop and sustain a positive driving
philosophy ·
- How to be accepting of diversity and how to
accommodate to it ·
- How to practice self-witnessing on roads and
in cars ·
- How to participate in
Quality Driving Circles ·
- How to use inner power techniques to manage
emotions in traffic ·
- How to neutralize the media portrayals of
drivers behaving badly ·
- How to resist bad influences from friends who
want to party in the car ·
- How to be psychologically prepared for not
driving after drinking ·
- Knowledge of driving psychology principles ·
- How to be active in the movement called
Children Against Road Rage ·
- Getting used to keeping a permanent Road User
Log or Diary
Dear DrDriving:
When driving in the right hand lane, I will often take note of the traffic behind me as I
approach a red light. If I find there is no turn lane at the light and the car behind me
has their turn signal on indicating they want to turn right, I will pull into the next
lane to my left (if I can do so safely) so the person in the right hand lane behind me can
make their turn at the light without having to wait for it to turn green (you can turn
right on a red light in Arizona).
I also tend to give up my "right of
way" to anyone who has the courtesy to use their turn signal. I believe bad driving
habits begin outside of the automobile. If we improve our relations with other humans (as
a whole in this culture) and consider other drivers on the road as people instead of as
automobiles, driving conditions will begin to improve. When someone smiles or waves at
you, you remember their humanity. When someone honks at you, you remember their license
number. You can quote me on that.
Prayers
Behind the Wheel
But he that hateth his brother is in the
darkness, and walketh in the darkness, and knoweth not whither he goeth, because the
darkness hath blinded his eyes. (1 John 2:11).
Lord, we are grateful that you are giving us
the understanding for how to be a compassionate and law abiding driver. Lord, we thank you
for the desire to act peacefully towards other drivers and road users. We pray that you
keep us from falling into temptations behind the wheel and we ask for strength to resist
our natural penchant for competing with other drivers and denying them the courtesy I owe
them and the dignity they are entitled to as God's children. Amen.
Lord, help me to see that tailgating is
wrong. Strengthen my resolve to keep my vehicle within legal and safe limits. Heal me,
Lord, of a led foot and an impatient heart. Let your angel watch over all road users, that
we may be protected from taking dangerous risks. Help us Lord to see our driving errors
and heal us from the sin of anger against our neighbor on the road. Amen.
Go forward Christian soldier The Lord has
been thy shelter The Lord will be thy light Trust only Christ thy captain Heed not the
treacherous voices that lure thy soul astray O pray that faith and virtue may keep thee to
the last. (Christian Hymn)
Lord, I want consciously to be the kind of
driver You want me to be so that Your love can be the foundation upon which I build my
traffic life. I can then be in harmony with the rest of the Highway Kingdom and my
decisions can be grounded in Divine Love and Wisdom, so that I may be confident that my
actions and thoughts and intentions will be loving and harmonious, supportive and
tolerant, collective and coordinated, predictable to others, a Good Samaritan, in
accordance with Your wishes, O Lord Jesus. Amen.
Above all, clothe yourselves with love,
which binds everything together in perfect harmony (Colossians 3:14).
Lord, when my thought focuses on You, I feel
loved, warm and secure. Let it be with me as it was with You, recorded in Psalm 63:1
"O God, you are my God, I seek you, my soul thirsts for you." Thank you, Lord,
for the wisdom and love I have as a driver. Let your righteous judgments be my judgments
behind the wheel--swift and accurate, prudent and compassionate. Keep the demon of traffic
rage from tempting me to sin, for I know full well my former delights of rage and
retaliation, anger and unrighteous judgment, and all manners of driving
foolishness--tailgating, speeding, blocking the left lane, going through red lights,
ignoring stop signs, changing lanes without signaling, revving my engine, insulting,
wishing ill, feeling selfish, and worse than these. Lord Jesus Christ, You are my God, You
I seek, and my mind and spirit thirst for You, for Your love and wisdom, for your gentle
instruction, for your patience and encouragement, for your protection and promises. Amen.
Christian
Affirmations for Drivers
But the wisdom that is from above is first
pure, then peaceable, gentle, easy to be entreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without
variance, without hypocrisy. And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace for
them that make peace. (James 3: 17-18)
But be ye doers of the Word, and not hearers
only, deluding your own selves. For if any one is a hearer of the Word and not a doer, he
is like unto a man beholding his natural face in a mirror: for he beholdeth himself, and
goeth away, and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was. But he that looketh into
the perfect law, the law of liberty, and so continueth, being not a hearer that forgetteth
but a doer that worketh, this man shall be blessed in his doing. (James 1: 22-25)
- Every driver can become a transformed driver!
- A drivers character CAN change and
improve endlessly!
- You CAN become a Renewed Driver, a driver
with HEART!
- Driving CAN be beautiful!
- Every bad driving habit can be modified!
- The Lord participates in your
drivinglet it be a harmonious cooperation!
- The Lord appoints Angels to be with you while
you drive!
- You can place yourself in the protective
stream of Divine Providence by consciously honoring drivers and traffic regulations!
- We make hundreds of little decisions while
driving, and every one of them counts spirituallyfor the Lord or against the Lord!
- Heaven is real. Hell is real. Eternity is
real. Its our choice, says the Lord!
- Highway babylon CAN be transformed into The
Kings Highway, and I am called upon to make a contribution as a driver!
- All drivers CAN be transformed from an
aggressive driver into a supportive driver!
- All Christian drivers experience aggressive
moments, and these are given them as a spiritual temptation to overcome for the sake of
purification, hence closer ties to the Lord!
- Christian drivers CAN switch from being a big
part of the problem to being a big part of the solution to highway babylon!
- We CAN pray to the Lord to save us from our
negative thinking behind the wheel and to fill us with His positive thoughts!
- Christian drivers who have experienced the
transformation, sense an inner joy braking forth all around them in trafficalready
they are in The Kings Highway!
- Christian drivers who have experienced the
transformation, sense an inner strength surging within them when sitting behind the wheel!
Jerusalem, Jerusalem, that killeth the
prophets, and stoneth them that are sent unto her! how often would
I have gathered thy children together, even as a hen gathereth her chickens under her
wings, and ye would not!! (Matthew 23:37)
Except ye believe that I Am, ye shall die in
your sins. (John 8:24)
I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and
my fortress: my God; in Him will I trust. He shall cover thee with His feathers, and under
His wings shalt thou trust: His truth shall be thy shield and buckler. (Psalms 91: 2, 4)
A Drivers Conversation with an
Angel of the Lord: Part 2
Now ye are clean through the word which I
have spoken unto you. Abide in me, and I in you. As the branch cannot bear fruit of
itself, except it abide in the vine; no more can ye, except ye abide in me. I am the vine,
ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much
fruit: for without me ye can do nothing. If a man abide not in me, he is cast forth as a
branch, and is withered; and men gather them, and cast them into the fire, and they are
burned. If ye abide in me, and my words abide in you, ye shall ask what ye will, and it
shall be done unto you. (John 15: 3-7)
I was troubled. There was distress in my
heart. I glanced over and saw his face again. I had not noticed before that he was an
extremely handsome young man. Hard to pinpoint the age, but Id say about 22. There
was a definite luminance to his skin and his expression was intelligent and relaxed. I
only took about three quarters of a second to look at him, then my head whipped back. His
image was still sharp in my memory as my eyes were searching the road ahead. Heavy rain
drops were beginning to appear on my windshield. I waited awhile before turning on the
wipers. When I did it was too soon and there still was'ntt enough water so my blades
were rubbing the glass and making that awful noise I hate.
So I turned it on for a three wipes, then I
turned it off. Then I turned it on again, but it stopped raining. I was disappointed. Now
I have nothing to fool with. I glanced over to the Angel of the Lord. He was just looking
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