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What's
Going on in Traffic
Psychologists study what
people do in different social situations
and then develop explanations for their
actions and reactions. In this sense we
all have to be like psychologists, even if one never took a psychology
degree program, since our ability to carry out the
daily tasks in our lives depends on our
understanding of ourselves and others.
For example, suppose you agreed to meet
a friend for lunch in a designated
restaurant. You have been waiting for
half an hour at the table and your
friend has not shown up. You have to
make a decision. You see several
options. Eat lunch by yourself and go
back to work. Use the phone and try to
contact the person. Leave and go look
for your friend. Continue to wait and
not order lunch.
As you review these
options, you also have various
reactions. Perhaps you are irritated, or
worried. Thoughts occur that possibly
the person had an accident. Or maybe you
find yourself criticizing your friend
and recalling a past pattern of
unreliability. You might question this
person's character. Finally your friend
shows up. You are relieved, but still
peeved.
Decisions, options,
reactions, and explanations constantly
go on in our mind moment by moment as we
cope with life's changing events.
Psychologists call this activity making
attributions. Let's apply this
idea to traffic psychology. While we
drive, we constantly have to figure out
what's going on, what other drivers are
doing. Some events are easy to recognize
because they are accompanied by official
signs like turn signals. Other types of
communication signals may not be
official, but they are traditional, like
motorists waving to you after you made
an opening in your lane to let them in.
But there are many other
cues we need to pick up in traffic which
are incidental rather than
communicative. For example as you're
coming down a hill you see a car backing
out of the driveway. You have to make a
quick decision: do you proceed or do you
stop? Your decision depends on your
"causal attributions," or the
explanation that you have for that
situation. For instance:
That woman better wait for
me to pass. I have the right of way now.
She looks like she's coming out fast,
she might not stop for me. I'll speed up
so she knows I'm not giving her room to
back out now. She knows she should wait
for me. There, she waited. Good.
If you figure that the
driver of the other car is cautious, and
you expect to have been noticed, then
you decide to proceed. If you think the
driver has not seen you, you might slow
down, honk, or stop. All sorts of
situational cues can influence your
explanation, expectation, and decision:
* Is the driver male or
female, old or young, well dressed or
not?
* Is the car new or old,
fancy or average?
* Is the visibility good
or obstructed?
* Is the car proceeding
slowly with hesitation or is it coming
out fast?
These situational cues
combine with your own attitudes and
habits to produce your decision or
action. Your driving decisions and
actions express your personality style
and character. How you act and react,
how you think and feel, are the
automatic result of what you see, what
you believe, and what you have learned
to do by habit.
You can consciously modify
your driving personality by controlling
what you look at in traffic, what you
believe about other motorists, and the
new driving habits you practice.
Self-witnessing efforts reveal to you
what you look at, what you focus on,
what kind of thought-habits you have
acquired, what quality of emotions
surround you in traffic. The emotion is
the result of your habits of thought and
feeling as a driver. You are helpless in
changing your emotions by an act of will
or resolution. But you can use
systematic self-modification techniques
to suppress the habits of thought and
feeling you observe in yourself. You can
substitute for them new and healthier
mental patterns and thereby permanently
improve the quality your traffic life.
Why
Did You Do That?
How do you control what
you believe about other drivers? One
technique is to examine your driving
attributions. Consider, for instance, a
slow moving car in your lane. Why is the
driver going so slow? You can attribute
the cause to several elements:
(1) the driver's disposition.
You might think that the person is
inconsiderate, incompetent, stupid,
dumb.
(2) the driver's appearance,
such as race, gender, age, or ethnic
background.
(3) the traffic situation.
You might think that the car is old or
malfunctioning, or perhaps there is a
child in the car, or someone is sick.
The first two causes are
called "dispositional attributions"
while the third is known as "situational
attributions." Social psychologists have
found under experimental conditions,
that when people make a dispositional
attribution , they react with negative
emotions. On the other hand, when people
make a situational attribution, they
feel more tolerant or even positive.
Getting back to the slow
moving driver in your lane. You have a
choice whether you are going to make a
dispositional or a situational
attribution. You know that you are
making a dispositional attribution when
you witness yourself thinking derogatory
terms about the slow driver and his or
her gender and race. The result is that
your mind is getting polluted with
negative emotions. You are opening a
line of communication with hellish
feelings. You are victimizing yourself.
But you a have a free choice. You can
switch attributions !
You can attribute the
cause of the car's slowness to something
in the situation -- there is a
malfunction, an illness, special cargo,
and so on. Now you free yourself to
experience healthier emotions --
* compassion ("I better be
careful not to threaten them.")
* patience ("This won't
last very long.")
* prudence ("Let me see if
I can pass this car.")
* tolerance ("Everybody's
got the right to be here."), and so on.
Drivers'
Self-Serving Bias
Traffic witnesses
discovered that there is a self-serving
bias in the way they make attributions
on the road. For example, when other
drivers cut them off in a lane switching
incident, they felt outraged when making
a dispositional attribution: "How
annoying. They're being inconsiderate,
rude, aggressive." But when it is our
turn to cut someone off, we make a
situational attribution: "I had to do
that because I have to take the cutoff
ramp soon," or, "because I am in hurry
today." Consider these two opposing ways
of explaining things to yourself.
Dispositional
Attributions:
Looks like that sports
car is going to try to get in ahead of
me. It's coming real fast. I gotta
close that gap to keep it
out...(speeding up to the end of the
line to keep him out). He's still
coming fast, no, no, you bastard hog!
Weaseling in, forcing me to jam the
brake down. You don't deserve to have
a nice day. You did it because you're
such an evil person.
Situational
Attributions:
Looks like that sports
car is going to try to get in ahead of
me. It's coming real fast. I gotta
close that gap to keep it out. Let him
come in behind me. (speeding up to the
end of the line to keep him out). He's
still coming fast, OK, I have no
choice but to let him in. He is
forcing his way into the lane. Maybe
he is in a desperate hurry to get
somewhere. I suppose I would do the
same. Maybe I should've let him in in
the first place.
The dispositional
attribution ends you in negative country
while the situational attribution takes
you out of it, affording you positive,
healthy, community-building occasions
with other road users.
A common fear of drivers
is that they will break the unspoken
rules of the road and thus cause others
to hate them. When we inconvenience
other drivers, we expect them to react
with negative thoughts and emotions
aimed at us. In traffic, as a rule, we
cut each other no slack, and we
attribute negative reactions to all
other drivers. How close is this
imagined response to reality? The
drivers we talked to admitted that they
don't always think negatively about
other drivers, though it's routine to do
so. So, much of what we imagine others
are thinking of us as drivers is just
fantasy. But these fantasies are
standard attributions we make in
traffic, and they are knitted into the
fabric of our thoughts and feelings
while driving.
Driver's
Double Standard
It's important for you to
observe your causal attributions in
traffic so that you can convince
yourself that your logic is biased,
being blindly in favor of your actions
even when you're wrong. Drivers tend to
take credit for a skillful maneuver like
squeezing into a densely packed line of
cars, or getting somewhere faster than
usual. However, when we find a parking
ticket on the windshield we want to
blame the "over-zealous" police officer.
We congratulate ourselves for doing our
job well, but criticize police for doing
their job! Our logic is biased and
self-serving, inconsistent and
troublesome. Self-serving logic is
maladaptive and ultimately
self-destructive. Realizing this truth
might prompt us to want to change our
double standard.
We treat others harshly by
seeing their behavior as what
they freely choose to do; but we excuse
what we do by seeing it as
"forced" on us by an inevitable result
of the situation.
CARtoon 11-7
Dispositional Attribution
One car is passing another in
the left lane. The two cars
are even. The driver of the
passing car thinks: "He was
going so slow. Now that I'm
passing him, he speeds up,
just to irritate me and make
me mad. Because of him I look
like a fool." |
We permit ourselves to
close the gap in our line to prevent
entry, but when others do it to us,
they're doing it to "irritate" us. We
look like a fool "because of them." When
we speed, it's not because we choose to
break the limit, it's because we "have
to", being in the left lane. Becoming
aware of this natural tendency for
attributional bias can help us change
our attitudes and feelings towards other
drivers, to extend a sense of community
to traveling on the road.
I have to go above the
limit because I'm in the left lane.
That's just the way it is in the left
lane. I like that, live your life in
the left lane. Yeah, you always get go
15 to 20 over the speed limit.
Traffic
Schemas
We normally use slogans
for categorizing people and events.
"Schemas" are slogans or pictures we
make-up in our mind about everyday
situations as we experience them, over
and over. These representations help us
to quickly recognize what's going on at
a glance, without having to figure
things out each time all over again. If
we apply this concept to the traffic
situation, we can examine the content of
our own driving schemas to see if they
are accurate or distorted, thus, whether
they need revising.
For example, a basic
traffic schema we all have relates to
the difference between the role of
driver vs. passenger (see Chapter 8).
Drivers can chose a "role schema" that
puts them in control of the vehicle. In
their mind, passengers are assigned the
role of sitting passively. This is an
authoritarian type of role schema based
on the image and power of captains,
pilots and commanders. There may be a role
clash when a driver's schema
forbids receiving passenger feedback
while the passenger's schema does. In
this case, when a passenger expresses a
concern or suggests a change in the
driver's behavior, the driver's schema
contradicts the passenger's action. The
driver experiences irritation or anger
and may feel like retaliating verbally.
To humanize the situation, drivers need
to change their role schema to agree
with the passengers' schema. It's
arbitrary and unfair for a driver to
insist on a role schema that violates
the human rights of passengers.
Rather than forcing the
passenger to shut up, a driver can avoid
negative emotions by expanding the role
schema to include passenger feedback.
She always bugged me
whenever I gave her a ride home up the
hill. It's a winding road with lots of
switchbacks, and she'd always brace
herself by slamming her hand on the
dashboard at every turn, as if she
would fall over without it. Why
couldn't she just hold the door handle
like everyone else? Why does she have
to make a scene on every turn? I
couldn't stand driving her because of
that. She never said anything, and
neither did I.
Now, after studying my
own driving behavior, I know that I
need to include her comfort and
feelings of safety as part of my own
responsibility as a driver. I was
upset when I realized that I was such
an insensitive person, that I ignored
her instead of talking to her or
adjusting my speed around the turns.
After doing the work on my driving,
it's not a big deal really, and I find
that I even enjoy it more when my
passenger is relaxed.
She expanded her role
schema to include feedback from the
passenger as part of the information the
driver needs to respond to. She's now
including gestures as important
feedback, and she enjoys caring about
the passengers' feelings of safety. She
finds this role change satisfying and
empowering. Clearly, intolerance or
tolerance of passengers is the result of
the driver's role schema, which
fortunately, can be modified with
conscious effort and technique.
Traffic
Scripts
Cognitive scientists use
the word script to refer to the
sub-components of a schema. For
instance, when you enter a restaurant,
you know what to do because you have
learned a "restaurant script" --
executing a sequence of actions
appropriate to the restaurant situation
such as choosing a table, ordering,
waiting, eating, paying the bill,
leaving. All day long we follow the
scripts that we acquire through habit
and practice. This saves time and mental
effort in having to re-figure everything
from scratch.
At some point, schemas and
scripts become so habitual and automatic
that we are no longer aware of them. The
script sub-consciously guides our
actions and expectations. At this point,
our behavior can be held captive to rigid
scripts, preventing us from
adapting and changing appropriately.
Practicing the self-witnessing technique
loosens your scripts through greater
awareness, and prepares them for
editing.
Your scripts and schemas
can be very specific. You expect
different things from various
passengers, be they parents, children, a
spouse, friends, or the driver license
inspector. We have a separate script for
each of these situations. Scripts that
govern our driving behavior take into
account the type of road and the
neighborhood. The script for driving
with a police car behind you is
different from the "no fusize="3"
script. Your driving schema in downtown
traffic, at a time when you feel like
you're fighting your way through it, has
a more aggressive script in comparison
to your neighborhood driving script.
Stereotypes
-- It's a Lady Driver
A schema or script can be
the basis for holding on to stereotypes
and prejudices. Take for example
person-schemas that are part of our
beliefs about other people. One motorist
was irritated at a car that was moving
slower in his lane. When he got around
the car and looked at the driver, he
felt disdain: "It's a lady driver. They
can't drive. She obviously doesn't get
my hint." His person-schema for women
drivers forces him to see every
encounter in this biased manner. He has
practically no chance of discovering the
truth and of seeing traffic events in an
objective manner.
We are all at the mercy of
our un-witnessed schemas! Prejudiced
person-schemas can pile up unexamined
with every encounter that is made to fit
the earlier category. You become victim
to your own self-fulfilling prophecy.
I can't understand why
this car has to go so slow. It just
bugs me to no end. Look at this, it's
driving at 40 when the max is 45. O.K
. so at least they should get up to
45. I can't stand this. I told myself
I'm going to have a nice leisurely
drive to the shopping center. I'm not
in any hurry. So why do I feel this
way? #@$%*. I'm gonna pass this guy.
Oh, shoot. I almost hit
that miserable car. Where the dickens
did it come from. Wow, I feel totally
bummed out. My heart won't stop
pounding. Imagine I could've
been...Man, I'm gonna loose this guy.
I'm putting on my blinker. I'm looking
in the rear view window. Don't want
something to happen. I don't see
anyone. I'm looking over my shoulder
just to make sure. VVVrrrooom, it
feels good to press the accelerator.
I'm gonna give this guy
a dirty look, #@$%*. Oh my God look at
this old, old guy. What on earth is he
doing on the road. He 's so short his
head hardly reaches the top of the
wheel. That's it man, you gotta get
rid of these old folks.
Every time this motorist
encounters an older driver he
automatically, and subconsciously,
repeats this script, reinforcing the
schema until it's ingrained. All
objectivity is then lost. From then on,
fast moving older drivers are never
noticed. They seem not to exist for this
motorist because they are not part of
his schema. This is the mechanism by
which driving stereotypes are
transmitted and maintained --
* about men versus women
drivers
* about particular ethnic
groups with whom they share the road
* about certain types of
cars
* about the personality of
their owners.
Self-witnessing in traffic
is an effective approach to managing
driving schemas and scripts -- the
controlling agents that are at work
behind the scenes in your mental world.
The speed-hungry motorist
who wanted to get rid of older drivers,
was persuaded by a friend to do a
driving persona make-over. One of the
elements he chose to work on was his
obsession with checking out the driver
of a car that displeased him. But "old
drivers" was not his only negative
schema. He had a dozen others involving
women drivers, tourists in rental jeeps,
young drivers, truck drivers, police,
foreign car drivers, expensive car
drivers, drivers in cars with dents from
collisions that had not been repaired,
and several others.
His self-modification
program consisted of two steps. First he
engaged in self-witnessing activities to
become more aware of his behind the
scenes schemas and scripts. This
unearthed the series of driver
stereotypes just mentioned. He had not
been aware of them as negative
stereotypes. He merely assumed that they
described the reality of the road. This
is how everybody he knew talked about
it, from his family to his circle of
friends and co-workers. This is also how
they talk on TV and in novels.
The self-witnessing
exercise was a tremendous relief to
me. I mean to discover that I didn't
have to be stuck with all that garbage
about this kind of a car or that kind
of a person. I'm aware now that I
hated all that. It was just a habit, I
guess. But I mean as soon as I looked
at it I saw my parents and their
ethnic prejudices. That wasn't me, not
really.
So now I had a chance of
doing something about it. No one will
believe how easy it was. It was just a
simple little trick. All I had to do
was think about it logically. I just
stopped looking! That's all. I just
refused to look. OK I admit, it wasn't
always easy. Sometimes I felt this
force pulling my head sideways so I
could check out the driver but I would
force myself back. It was real weird.
Like I'm possessed or something and
I'm fighting against this demon.
Anyway it wasn't that
hard. I mean after I did it a few
times, then I did it some more, and
then I started feeling like why was
this so hard before. O.K., so after I
stopped looking my mind was still
doing weird things. It was like I was
having an illusion that I did see the
driver and that explained why they
were driving this way or that way, you
know. Like I said. So that really
freaked me out cause I knew it wasn't
true. I didn't look. But this kind of
stuff didn't last very long. So
basically the whole thing was pretty
easy.
Once in a while I still
catch myself looking, but not like in
a premeditated way, like before when I
was looking forward to it and planning
what I was going to do and all that
stuff. But now I use an additional
technique which is to stop thinking
bad stuff about other drivers. I mean
things just automatically pop into my
head about how somebody is driving, or
maybe they're doing something like
talking on a phone or putting on
make-up, stuff like that.
So normally I just talk
to myself about them, like how strange
they are or why can't they keep their
distance behind me and stuff like
that. So now I am more aware of it,
that I'm doing it, and I just make
myself stop. That's it. I just say,
No, No, that's bad. Stop it. Or, I'm
thinking that I shouldn't be judging
people. That's not right. And that
kind of stuff. So now I feel healed.
What a nice way of coming
out of your driving personality
make-over experience -- "So now I feel
healed." He made use of a classic
technique known in cognitive therapy as
thought stopping. He realizes that he
acquired the family's habit of thinking
judgmentally about other people in terms
of their gender, age, race, and ethnic
background. Freedom is the power to say
no to our old scripts. "I just say, No,
No, that's bad. Stop it."
Traffic schemas and
scripts can be modified no matter how
ingrained they are. Of course, the
motivation has to be there. This
individual found it in his moral self.
"I'm thinking that I shouldn't be
judging people. That's not right." He
examined himself, saw a character
weakness, and used his newly acquired
skills as a traffic psychologist to
strengthen himself, and thus, to free
himself.
CARtoon 11-14
Back to Driving Sanity
Highway scene with bubbles
showing what drivers are
thinking: "I'm very very
angry"; "I feel like
retaliating"; "I'm enraged";
"I'm gonna sue the Mayor for
this"; "This is not fun" Other
bubbles coming from three of
the cars show what the radio
is saying: "Captivated drivers
wake up, throw away"; "your
emotional shackles, and join
the"; "new way of
participatory driving." Bottom
Caption reads: "Road
Democracy" |
Healthy
Driving Schemas
We've been looking so far
at negative schemas and scripts, but
these are in a sense corruptions of
healthy, positive schemas. A schema is a
cognitive or mental tool for organizing
information into chunks. When we are
backing into a parking stall, our schema
prevents us from backing into the wall
or the other car. The parking schema
has several scripts in it
* control the accelerator
very carefully
* be prepared to break
instantly
* never let the bumper
touch the wall
* move your head
alternately between front and back
Even these sub-schemas
have their own elements, for example
what to do with the eyes and hands. No
wonder it would be difficult and
expensive to build robots that can park
your car. It's quite a complex skill.
And yet, after enough practice, we park
our cars with relative ease. Many
drivers enjoy parking cars in tight
places while others dislike it. In
either case, however, nearly everyone
can accomplish it with the help of
parking schemas and scripts that are
built-up through practice and the desire
to become good at it.
Modifying
Your Driving Scripts
The building of driving
habits is gradual and cumulative. You
can see that cleaning up our driving
habits is a Herculean task that might
take weeks and months of dedicated
effort. We need to watch out for the
tendency to make excuses for ourselves.
This is not to say that we must be
perfect at all times, only that if we
encounter a lapse, we should not just
accept it or excuse it. To the extent
that we make excuses for our traffic
weaknesses, to that extent we justify
them, accept them, and perpetuate them.
We then lose control over our traffic
schemas and scripts. Our driving persona
becomes a stranger to us. It's no longer
we who are driving, but some temporary
jack ass, jerk, or bully.
Positive driving schemas
and scripts create a healthy mental
climate behind the wheel. The driver
becomes a competent, compassionate, and
happy motorist. Appropriate scripts take
over under specific conditions -- being
in downtown traffic, on the freeway, in
the parking lot, or just down the block
from home.
Unconscious
Driving
While driving schemas are
necessary for motorists, they introduce
the tendency of unconscious driving.
Unexamined schemas continue to be
automatically reinforced with each new
traffic incident, reducing your ability
to be aware of your own driving persona.
A lifelong and unrecognized habit of bad
driving affects the individual
intellectually, morally, and
spiritually. The capacity for
objectivity and rational thinking is
reduced, while extreme emotions of
impatience, frustration, and aggression
are turned loose within our minds. An
otherwise nice person turns into a
driving demon whose thoughts and
feelings, if seen on-screen, would
horrify them and their friends.
Pressure
Tactics in Traffic
When we do something we
don't think we should be doing, there
must be a behind the scenes reason for
our action. This unidentified script is
kept in place by some fear or other
emotion. It feels as though we're
coerced to act in a certain way. Social
psychologists call this pressure "social
conformity." It's a kind of inner
coercion or compulsion to "fit in" or to
"not stand out." If we apply this
concept to traffic psychology we can
easily recognize its effects when we
observe the way we habitually drive in
convoys (see Chapter 7).
Motorists on busy two-lane
highways tend not to tolerate motorists
who don't conform to the speed of the
convoy. Regulars on that highway, or
perhaps some self-appointed bully type
personas, exert strong pressure on other
drivers to conform. They use all sorts
of inventive but disturbing tactics:
* tailgating
* giving stares and dirty
looks
* speeding by
* revving the engine
* cutting in and cutting
you off
* performing threatening
gestures
* yelling through the
window
* giving chase
* trying to run someone
off the road.
Non-conformity in traffic
is seldom tolerated.
I love to follow along
with the convoy. I always try to join
a group of cars. I don't have to worry
about speeding because everyone else
is. I just go the same speed as the
group. I don't stick out, I blend in.
I don't like it when someone tries to
break up the convoy so they can get
ahead. So I close ranks to do my part
to help maintain the integrity of the
pack. I think other drivers feel the
same as I do.
We don't want to start a
war on the road, with regulars on one
side and non-conformists on the other.
Perhaps it's true, as some traffic
engineers argue, that the speed of a
convoy is not as dangerous as what the
pack members do when getting around a
slower moving vehicle that travels at
"mere" speed limit. This means that if
you're traveling in a convoy above the
speed limit, as we almost always are,
it's better to conform to the going
speed than to attempt to hold things
back by slowing down. Engineers say that
the most dangerous element is the change
in rate, caused by lane hopping and
rubbernecking.
Stuck
on Yellow
In traffic, being part of
the crowd shows itself in many ways,
some beneficial, some not. Take for
instance our tendency to run a yellow
light that's about to turn red. It's
understandable when you're caught right
in the middle of the intersection as the
light turns yellow. In that case, we
have time to cross or turn before the
light becomes red. But think of the
situation where you've been waiting in a
left turn only lane behind two other
cars. Opposing traffic prevents the
first car from going until the light
turns yellow. The first car turns and
the second makes a run for it, even
though the light has been yellow for a
few seconds. What do you do as the third
car?
You may not think it's
right or legal, yet you feel the
pressure of conformity to go along and
speed through to make it across. You
don't want to be the one who is "stuck
back there."
I should go, I should
go. Will I go though? I should go.
They expect me to go. If I don't go
they'll think I'm a wimp. I hated
that. I have to go, oh wow, I'm going.
No cops.
Somehow our pride has
gotten involved on the wrong side of the
battle. A higher, inner conformity to
the law, to decency, to safety has given
way to a lower, more external conformity
of "Be proud of getting away with it."
Practicing traffic psychology can help
get our national psyche out of this
denigrating bind.
Lane
Hopping Illusions
Another area in traffic
where conformity pressures you is lane
switching in the hope of moving faster
and getting ahead. The illusion that the
lane you're in is slower puts you at
risk for conformity pressures. You
observe one or two drivers switch lanes.
You notice how they act resolutely, with
assuredness. Surely they know what
they're doing. Off you go with them,
switching lanes. Seeing others do it
puts pressure on you to do it. You're
acting under the pressure of social
conformity.
Uncritical conformity
contributes to disorder and chaos on the
roadway. Unsafe leaders can lead other
drivers astray. When you are deciding on
an action in traffic, think about the
conformity angle. In fact, you are an
influence on others in traffic, good or
bad. Your unsafe behavior can become a
stimulus that others will imitate when
they experience the pressure of
conformity from your actions. Say No to
being an unsafe leader.
Freedom
to be Decent
Resisting external
conformity in traffic can be successful
when you decide to oppose it by calling
on your reserves of high and deep
motives within your psyche. They empower
you to obey road regulations and respect
human rights. These are the customs of
common decency. You'll be happily
surprised when you discover that once
you accept obedience to decency, you'll
be rewarded with sweet, innocent and
noble feelings. Besides this boost to
your self-esteem, choosing obedience
will give you the freedom to observe how
others drive without feeling compelled
to follow their example. Freedom from
the pressures of external conformity and
power tactics, at last!
CARtoon 11-21
Traffic Virus
Meeting around an oval table.
Sign on the wall reads:
"Traffic Safety Council"
Speaker at the lectern reads
from a letter: "...And so it
is with regrets that I'm
announcing the closure of the
Traffic Safety Council. I want
to thank..." One member says
to the person sitting next to
him: "Why are we disbanding?"
The other answers: "It started
with a tourist from the Garden
Isle who was driving with
Aloha. His harmless driving
style was contagious and
quickly spread throughout the
city. Now the Mayor thinks
we're not needed anymore."
Bottom Caption reads in strong
letters: "WISHFUL THINKING" |
Driving from an inner,
higher motive counteracts the current
road war mentality. The more motorists
adopt this orientation, the easier it
will be for others to do so as well.
Decency in traffic is contagious. Try it
to prove it to yourself. Conformity can
then operate in the positive direction.
Driving with integrity leaves you free
to be proud of yourself when
* you comply with the law
* stay within the speed
limits
* stop at yellow lights
* drive at a safe
following distance
* stay mostly within one
lane.
You'll be free to admire
drivers who are polite and inoffensive,
and you'll give yourself permission to
feel decent and compassionate towards
others on the road.
Captive
Motorists
Drivers are continually
exposed to numerous stressors. Any
incident can potentially turn into a
catastrophe. There is hardly a warning.
In addition to coping with dangers on
the outside, on the inside motorists
have to face the harshness of their own
driving personality. As many of the
testimonials show, the unreformed
driving persona is a comic book
character who desires to turn every
exchange into an insult and is willing
to be exposed to real danger by
executing risky and impulsive maneuvers.
Motorists have become
captive to their own type of comic book
driving personality. Every day, as a
matter of routine, we have to endure the
hell created by our virtual comic book
characters. The pain and suffering we
experience collectively as a nation in
one single year, is as staggering
as most wars this nation has ever
fought, and, unbelievable as this may
seem, we're willing to repeat this
experience, year after year. Traffic
psychology has the potential of bringing
sanity back to our highways and roads.
Like the witnesses in this book, all
motorists can rediscover a sense of
humanity as drivers.
Your
Moral Driving IQ
Driving is an interactive
exchange between motorists in traffic.
Our driving habits and style are
external, visible consequences of behind
the scenes events in the mind. These
mental events are your thoughts and
feelings. Driving exchanges involve body
and mind.
The mind, like the brain,
has two sides. The left brain
corresponds to the cognitive mind
filled with thoughts, perceptions, and
judgments, while the right brain
corresponds to the affective mind
filled with feelings, emotions, and
motives. Psychologists have studied the
two minds calling one "cognitive
development" and the other "moral or
affective development" Your cognitive IQ
is a measure of your intellectual
development and ability to perform
problem-solving tasks. Areas include
language, arithmetic, spatial reasoning,
and attention to detail. Your affective
IQ is a measure of your moral
development and ability to manage your
impulses and motives. Areas include
sensitivity to people's emotional needs
and respect for their human rights.
A series of well known
studies by Dr. Lawrence Kohlberg and his
associates, investigated the
developmental stages of moral behavior
in general. He would tell people a set
of stories that contained moral dilemmas
and asked them to explain what they
thought would be the right thing to do
in the hypothetical situations. For
example, a homeless person in a
supermarket steals a toothbrush for his
child, and gets caught: what should be
his punishment and why?
Kohlberg analyzed the
moral reasoning of people of all ages
and found that they differ in validity.
Apparently, many adults have an
underdeveloped moral sense and still use
reasoning patterns that are more
appropriate for children. He also
constructed several objective tests,
still in use today, which would help a
psychologist determine the level of
moral development of a person.
Applying these notions to
traffic psychology, we can see that
driving ability has two components, one
cognitive or rational, the other
affective or moral. For most drivers,
these two parts seem to act
independently. For instance, new drivers
may be inexperienced and undeveloped
cognitively, but morally they may be
advanced, acting with prudence and
decency. Many experienced drivers may
have highly developed cognitive skills
while their moral feelings remain
underdeveloped. They drive with
impulsiveness and aggression in their
heart. Kohlberg identified several
stages of moral development in people,
which we can apply to motorists in
traffic.
Pre-Conventional
Morality
During the first decade of
life our moral reasoning is immature.
Children divide things up into things
you can do without getting punished, and
things you can't do because you will get
punished. This is called
"preconventional morality" because it is
not directly related to a sense of
responsibility. The motivating force is
fear of punishment rather than guilt or
remorse.
Some people continue this
immature orientation in adult life. In
traffic for example, witnesses feel no
remorse or guilt for breaking the law or
violating someone's rights and freedom.
Our sense of morality appears quite
distant and unimportant when we coerce
other drivers to speed up by riding
threateningly on top of them. This is
called tailgating. Is tailgating a moral
issue, in your view?
Witness what you feel when
you force a motorist to move over. Do
you feel a tinge of remorse and shame,
or do you feel glee and
self-satisfaction? When you speed and
weave between lanes, you watch out for
cops around you, so as not to get
caught. Witness the attitude with which
you usually drive. Is your concern to
not get caught, or is it to obey the law
and be fair to others? You can know
whether you are operating with a low
moral driving IQ by answering these
questions honestly to yourself. As an
unreformed driver, chances are that your
moral driving IQ is still at this first
level! One of the great benefits of
practicing traffic psychology is that it
elevates and deepens our moral
development.
Conventional
Morality
As children become
adolescents, their sense of morality
generally grows into the second phase,
called "conventional morality." At this
stage we become more conformist
internally, not just externally. We
comply with regulations out of a sense
of loyalty to the social order and we
begin to feel guilty if we hurt others
or break their trust in us. Most of our
witnesses show both preconventional and
conventional levels of morality in
traffic. Some drivers might speed at all
times except when traffic police is in
evidence. At the same time they feel
ashamed and uncomfortable when other
drivers show irritation with some of
their maneuvers. Observe the conditions
under which you feel these emotions in
traffic:
shame, guilt, remorse,
embarrassment, regret, fear of injuring
someone.
These are feelings which
help us stay within the internal bounds
of conventional morality. These feelings
protect us from overstepping the bounds
of decency. They need to be cultivated
and encouraged.
Motorists have a constant
homeostatic balance to achieve in
traffic. On the one hand, we feel
impulsed to take care of Number One in
this highway war zone. On the other
hand, we desire to avoid being a
non-caring, opportunistic, weasel with
hardly any feelings for fellow human
beings. Upon this balance rests our
sanity. If we allow our conventional
moral feelings to weaken and wither in
traffic, we unleash madness on the
highways. If we drive too timidly and
without self-confidence, we become a
hazard and obstruction to others. A
moral balance must be reached between
self-interest and community support.
Post-Conventional
Morality
When we mature fully as
adults, starting with the third decade
of life, our moral development enters
the third or "postconventional" phase
which, according to Kohlberg, represents
the highest stage that most people will
attain for the rest of their lives. In
the post--conventional stage of moral
development, motorists act out of a
sense of inner principle --
responsibility and pride, rather than
out of fear of punishment (stage 1) or
out of conformity and loyalty to others
(stage 2).
In this advanced phase we
are more discriminating of the
situation, and we tend to adjust our
behavior to circumstances. For instance,
witnesses recognize that speeding is
illegal and dangerous, and consciously
condemn it as bad practice. Yet they
allow themselves to go above the law
when they feel that it's justified. One
witness felt that it was all right for
him to speed when there was no traffic
since he wasn't putting anyone in
jeopardy. Similarly, it was permissible
to speed along with a convoy since he
was just doing what everyone else was
doing. Another driver felt it was all
right to tailgate motorists who were
driving too slow in the fast lane since
they were "immorally" blocking the way
of others.
Morally mature drivers
rely on an inner sense of self-worth as
a human being. Conscience dictates
behavior, not the fear of punishment or
the desire to dominate. Before we can
experience altruism we need to feel
empathy for people's plight and sympathy
for their suffering. Do you see another
driver in distress? Let it become a
stimulus for your coming to the rescue.
Soon your new attitude becomes an
automatic response shown as helpfulness
and consideration for others.
Motorists who have
nurtured a high moral driving IQ are
more stable, reliable, and free. They
are less subject to pressure by others
and maintain their own style of driving
in which they strongly believe. They
value positive exchanges but they are
not swayed by loyalty or approval.
Seeing others drive badly, they are not
tempted to do likewise but maintain
their strong internal convictions.
Though they have the right of way, they
may still allow another car to go first.
They are involved in the human side of
the exchange more than in having to make
that green light. Moral drivers have
learned to accept the fact that they
need to take other people's feelings
into account. In addition, they are
aware that their behavior can have a
positive or negative influence on
others.
Since these three levels
of driving morality exist, we all need
to do some honest self-witnessing in
traffic to find out our own level. For
instance, is your driving persona the
same or different when you drive alone
or with a passenger? You may be carrying
on a secret frenzied lifestyle when
driving alone, but you tone yourself
down to normal when you have passengers
who can observe your reactions. This
inconsistency would show that your
morality depends on external things such
as fear of disapproval, rather than on
your own internal principles.
Test
Yourself Exercise: -- What's your
Moral Driving IQ?
We asked motorists to list
the situations in traffic that caused
them to become aggressive drivers and
inconsiderate of others. See how many
apply to you.
___ When there is heavy
traffic in front of me going in the same
direction, I weave and try to get ahead.
___ When another car is
trying to cross my path or enter my
lane, I close the gap to prevent it from
entering.
___ When I'm late in
getting to my destination, I become less
patient and tailgate slow moving
motorists.
___ When someone cuts me
off and then proceeds to slow down, I
feel like hitting that car from the
back.
___ When a driver cuts in
front of me suddenly, especially without
signaling first, I get very nasty
thoughts about them.
___ When I'm showing off
for friends, I take too many risks.
___ When I'm listening to
loud, fast music on my stereo, I drive
like I feel.
___ When I drive late at
night, I become a speed demon.
___ When I encounter road
hugging pedestrians, I feel like pushing
them out of my way.
___ When other drivers
become aggressive or tailgate me, I slow
down to punish them.
___ When I'm surrounded by
other automobiles and I get that closed
in feeling, I feel like bolting out.
___ When I'm under stress
due to work, I get very angry at all the
other drivers and take it out on them.
___ When I have problems
on my mind and it's hot and people cut
in front of me, I want everybody else to
get off the road.
___ When a passenger
criticizes me, it puts me in a bad mood
and I retaliate verbally.
___ When there is an
aggressive environment around me and
cocky motorists drive recklessly next to
me, I get into an angry rebellious mood.
___ When other drivers
think that they are the only ones on the
road and act carelessly, I start hating
them.
___ When cars next to me
or behind me do something stupid like
signaling and then not turning, I call
them bad names in my mind.
___ When others squeeze
their cars in front of me and I have to
come to a screeching halt, I feel like
crashing into them to teach them a
lesson.
___ When other people
don't follow traffic signals like
failing to make a full stop, I lambaste
them with terrible words.
___ When I'm in a rush to
get somewhere, upset, or frustrated and
I feel that it's taking more time than I
can afford, I then cut in front of other
cars and go through yellow lights.
Note that the things that
aggravate us are the very things that we
all do. So we're doing it to each other.
Be a
Traffic Witness
To stop driving each other
crazy we first need to become more
conscious of our traffic life. We have
to witness ourselves in the act of
thinking and doing crazy things. When
you see the madness in you, you will
want to stop. That's what happened to
the witnesses whose biographical stories
you read in this book. Wanting to stop
gives you the motivation to change.
Successful self-modification is a matter
of persistence, which means, exerting
effort to overcome resistance to change.
Keep the left brain from interfering
with what the right brain is doing. In
other words, use affective or moral
power within you to tame your baser
nature. Let a new traffic you
emerge, one that is nicer, nobler, more
attractive, more rational and human.
The transformation of your
traffic life begins with
self-witnessing. You can't rely on your
impressions of yourself, as you might
when filling out a questionnaire about
"What Kind of Driver Am I" (see Chapter
3). You can't rely on your reputation or
self-image. You can't rely on
retrospective reports about yourself,
such as the driving stories you tell
sometimes. You can't rely on your
passengers to tell it like it is, since
they're under constant threat of
retaliation by you (see Chapter 8).
Therefore self-witnessing is a way out
of your self-encapsulated bubble of
isolation that supports your current
comic book driving personality.
Self-witnessing is
objective because you are then looking
at yourself like others see you. You are
being an audience to yourself.
You observe yourself as you are in the
making. You speak your thoughts and
feelings out loud, forcing you to hear
like another would. You're faced with
the naked intensity of your negative
impulses and the horrendous content of
your irrational thoughts. Shocked by
this sorry display, you react against
yourself. How awful I am! By this, you
put yourself into the frame of freedom.
You do have a choice.
You begin to gain insight
into a psychological pattern of your
traffic personality. What are the things
that aggravate you? A car squeezes in; a
car crosses your path; a car cuts you
off; a car acts carelessly. You are in a
rut. Perhaps you need to reform the way
you define what other motorists do.
Exactly what is it that pushes your
button when another car enters your
path? "The driver didn't signal" or "The
car forced me to break hard." "The car
took a right turn from the left lane."
"The car parked too close to my
driveway." Are these the underlying
cause? This is crucial to understand.
Let's go deeper.
You can see that "not
signaling" or "squeezing in" or "cutting
me off" are actions by others that
become stimuli to us. It appears
that these stimuli act like triggers to
our emotional reaction. We become aware
of our frustration and anger and we
attribute these feelings to the
offensive stimulus. How dare they act so
callously as to force us to brake
suddenly? Surely they're being careless
and offensive and insulting. They're
being bad. They deserve my righteous
indignation.
The fact, however, is that
we have a choice in our reactions. We
are not automatons responding to
stimuli. We can't keep using the
insanity defense on our behalf, over and
over, every trip. We must face up to it:
getting mad or being aggressive is one
choice; another is to de-dramatize the
situation and to look for more objective
explanations for the other driver's
action. One way to be more objective is
to apply to others what you can observe
about yourself. Consider what happens
when it's your turn to squeeze in
somewhere. What's on your mind? "Hey,
folks, please let me in, or I'll miss my
exit" or some other version.
In other words, you are
looking at the situation objectively.
You have a legitimate purpose to execute
-- making a turn. Your need is real.
Motorist A needs to get into the other
lane to catch an exit; motorist B and C
need to make space. Simple and
objective. It's easy to have this point
of view when you're motorist A. But when
you're motorist B or C, you balk. You
refuse to give space, you prevent
motorist A from getting space, you're
angry at motorist A for trying to
"squeeze in" ahead of you. Clearly,
you're not being objective in role B and
C. Instead, you're subjectively
dramatizing or mythifying the exchange.
Suddenly it has turned into a bizarro
comic book situation where we delight in
acting grossly and in thinking and
feeling crazy in multiple ways. In the
words of traffic witnesses:
I tailgate; I become
impatient; I quickly close the gap; I
feel like hitting them, killing them,
sweeping them off the road; giving
them a piece of my mind; punish them;
teach them a lesson; show them I'm no
pushover, and so on.
When asked why they get
mad, motorists give irrational excuses
rather than psychological causes of
their violence and alienation. "I become
crazy because..."
I'm late; under stress;
in a rush; in a bad mood; showing off;
listening to loud music; getting that
closed in feeling; responding to other
aggressive motorists.
We thus confuse the
situation with the cause. There are
three elements to consider in any
aggressive traffic exchange: the
objective situation, the psychological
cause, and the personal context.
The objective context:
You're driving and
you're in a hurry to get somewhere.
Other motorists are also there. Some
of them are also in a hurry. You are
forced to slow down. They are forced
to slow down. You need to take an
exit, they need to take an exit.
The psychological
context:
You strive to impose
your will on others. You want to
coerce other drivers to act in a
certain way that suits you, even if it
doesn't suit them.
The personal context:
Your moral values are
suspended and you create a
self-righteous theory that justifies
your aggressiveness.
To understand how these
three elements act together, start with
the personal context. If you suspend
your moral orientation, you can invent a
theory that justifies your aggression
"under certain conditions". By ignoring
the moral angle, you're setting-up a
psychological trigger mechanism for your
aggressive reaction, just waiting to go
off at the right time. When the
objective situation puts several cars in
the same vicinity of the road, you're
forced to brake because another car is
trying to go somewhere and you happen to
be there at the same instant. You react
by aggressing against the person in some
way since you feel justified.
Greening
of the Highway
The psychological cause of
aggressiveness is undercut and
disappears as soon as we get rid of this
orientation of coercion in traffic, .
Aggressive driving and grossly violent
thoughts aren't the result of being late
in heavy traffic. They're the result of
our culture of power and
coerciveness. The greening of the
highway and the humanizing of driving
will take place as soon as motorists are
willing to give up their current
commitment to coercion.
What would make anyone
give up the privilege to feel enraged
and think abhorrent thoughts privately?
We believe that the answer lies in the
universal desire to be fair-minded,
noble, and caring. We're convinced that
all individuals can tap into a higher
spiritual source within themselves from
which they can obtain rational thoughts
and loving feelings. It helps if you can
see this as a moral issue:
public roadways
shared by licensed motorists,
each having a right to
proceed. |
Therefore you must not
interfere with their rights just as they
ought not to interfere with yours. Can
you see it as a spiritual issue: What's
the good and right thing to do? Can we
think of motorists as strangers, fellow
citizens in jeopardy needing help,
sympathy and dignity from us?
Aggressive
Drivers in Europe
Some American drivers
wonder whether we as a nation are more
aggressive then other cultural groups.
In fact, applied psychologists in Great
Britain, the Netherlands, Denmark,
Switzerland, and Germany have noted that
a high level of aggression permeates the
traffic environment in their countries,
estimating that between 30% and 80% of
all road accidents are due to driver
aggressivity. In general, twice as many
male drivers show aggressive behavior in
comparison to female drivers.
Researchers define aggression in traffic
as the intention of the aggressor to
injure the other driver who is the
victim. This includes physical and
mental harm.
In a Dutch study, the
behavior of motorists was observed,
without their knowledge, at a pedestrian
crosswalk located on a moderately busy
street. One member of the observation
team would begin crossing the street
just as a car was approaching the
intersection. The driver's behavior was
judged by another team member as either
aggressive or not aggressive. Several
criteria were used:
driver fails to stop;
gesticulates; yells out; sounds the
horn; shakes a fist; points at the
forehead; shouts invectives; speeds up
and acts like running down the
pedestrians.
Approximately 1,000 cars
were observed and 1 in 4 motorists (25%)
were judged as aggressive in one way or
another.
Danish
vs. Dutch Drivers
Contrary to gender
stereotypes, there was only a slight
difference in degree of aggression shown
by male (28%) and female drivers (24%).
As expected, younger drivers were more
aggressive than older (31% vs. 21%).
Young male drivers were the most
aggressive group (33%) while older women
were the least aggressive (19%). Younger
women were more aggressive than older
men (26% vs. 21%). When the pedestrian
was a male, all drivers showed
aggression twice as often as when the
pedestrian was female. Drivers were more
aggressive in the afternoon than in the
morning.
For the sake of
comparison, the study was repeated in
Denmark and Switzerland. Danish drivers
were significantly less aggressive than
their Dutch counterparts, irrespective
of the gender of the pedestrian (12% vs.
25%). The Swiss were in between the
Dutch and the Danes in driver
aggressiveness. When the aggressive
drivers were later contacted and
interviewed, they didn't display the
same degree of aggression as on the
road. In fact, on the basis of the
interview alone, it wasn't possible to
predict who would be more or less
aggressive in traffic situations. It's
important to note that in Denmark, which
had the least aggressive motorists,
traffic education starts in
kindergarten. It emphasizes the
importance of social responsibility and
greater awareness of one's feelings in
traffic and how to express them in an
appropriate manner.
Driving behavior studies
in Germany tried to document the
experiences of motorists in traffic by
studying their degree of awareness of
other drivers and their inner fears and
conflicts. The German researchers gained
a retrospective look at several hundred
drivers by interviewing each of them in
depth for more than two hours. Through
these in-depth interviews, the
researchers attempted to reconstruct the
private world of the driver.
It appears from this study
that motorists use a driving pattern
to move the vehicle through traffic.
Drivers operate within a
"socio-psychological field." They
respond to many stimuli arising from the
interactions that maintain the flow of
traffic. Several such patterns were
identified. See how well they fit your
style.
Driving
Pathology
Psychologists who study
how we perceive things discovered a type
of homeostatic process called level of
adaptation. Take the case of speed. The
brain records the sensations our body
experiences and stores them along a
continuum from smaller to greater. The
range of speed that we're used to
travelling creates a specific level of
adaptation. This is the speed your body
expects to feel in particular segments
of roadways. These sensations are part
of your road schema.
One of the thrills that
some driving witnesses consistently
report is the sensation of acceleration.
They talk about it as if it were an
addiction they're in love with. How many
drivers can identify with actor Tom
Cruise before entering his jet airplane
in Top Gun -- "I feel the need
for speed?" Like with addiction in
general, there's the inevitable tendency
to keep pushing the range higher and
higher in order to maintain the same
amount of thrill. Physicians talk about
developing a tolerance level for
addictive drugs, requiring higher
dosages to do the same job, in a
continuous process of increasing intake.
A similar process may be operating with
speeding.
Motorists who allow
themselves to fall into the speed thrill
trap, destroy their normal level of
adaptation to the car's motion. Their speed
schema now includes a script that
sequences their behavior to drive fast,
hop back and forth across lanes, and
consider other cars as mere impediments.
They're condemned to forever trying to
go faster, even when it's not possible.
To passengers, this ferocious pursuit
may appear like a dangerous obsession.
But to the drivers, it only seems
perfectly natural. They have adapted to
a high level of risk and are dependent
on it for the feeling of normalcy. How
can you know when your level of
adaptation to car motion is being pushed
up abnormally high? There are two
reliable symptoms.
* One: you always feel
irritated at the ("slow") pace of
traffic.
* Two: passengers show
signs of being disturbed.
They might not even
complain verbally, because drivers often
punish such complaints by responding
with sarcasm, denial, and threat (see
Chapter 8).
Rush addicted drivers
get impatient, frustrated,
and irritated when traffic travels at
regular rates. Staying in line and
traveling with a convoy is intolerable
for them. Their emotions explode. They
begin to victimize their passengers and
other drivers. They yell out
obscenities. They act as if possessed by
devils. As a nation we have become used
to these extremes. Our level of
adaptation for tolerating pathological
driving behavior has increased.
Don't think you can get
ahead of me because I am the leader
today. I can stay ahead of all of you,
a piece of cake. How high do I have to
go to accomplish that? Oh, so you want
to go 65 in a 35? O.K., can handle.
Hey, is this a race or what, now I'm
doing 70 to stay ahead. Feels fine to
whip through here. Hope I don't get
burned -- O.K., made it to the stop
light. I'm still the leader here,
great day!
These extreme thoughts and
feelings illustrate the driver's ability
to adapt to totally unreasonable and
dangerous speeds without commenting on
the rationality or safety of that
action. We see it portrayed on-screen.
Children are exposed to it directly and
indirectly. Many people tell driving
stories of their own uncivilized,
coercive actions in traffic, and they
seem to glory in it. Their unhealthy
driving schema is filled with physical
and psychological expectations that are
beyond the legal, beyond the rational,
beyond the moral. The very fabric of our
most cherished values is at risk.
Driver
Self-Education
There are two approaches
to handling this threat. One is external
and relies on surveillance of drivers,
enforcement of laws, and punishment of
those who are convicted. This approach
is necessary but not sufficient since a
small percentage of illegal acts are
ever caught, and even fewer convicted.
In his book License to Kill,
Weier proposes that licensing procedures
include a "psychological evaluation" to
deny a driver's license to people who
are likely to be dangerous on the road.
But this is not a workable solution
because personality tests are not
foolproof methods for predicting
people's performance in real life
situations. Serious injustice would be
perpetrated by excluding thousands of
drivers who were judged inadequate on
the personality "tests," yet would be no
more dangerous on the road than those
who passed the tests, possibly less.
A more democratic and
appropriate approach would be continuing
driver self-education to provide for
the training of all motorists after they
have been licensed. The self-witnessing
reports of traffic witnesses clearly
show that there's a need for continuous
affective, emotional, and motivational
training of drivers throughout their
careers as motorists. A driving
personality make-over is a matter of
training the inner person.
It must and should remain a voluntary
matter. The inner self cannot be coerced
because it's spiritually free. We do
have moral choices. It's only our outer
behavior that can be coerced by others.
Inner behavior can only be coerced by
the self, and this is a matter of choice
and freedom.
When we choose in freedom
we always choose what we love or what we
desire. But we desire many things, both
good and bad, and so we're conflictual.
Yet desires are affective components in
the self and therefore are arranged in a
hierarchy of feelings and motives, some
higher, some lower. When we respect and
heed our conscience, higher motives have
power over lower motives. The reverse is
the case when we make it a habit to
ignore and silence the voice of
conscience. If you decide to become a
reformed driver because of higher
motives, you will succeed in your
driving personality make-over.
As a driver, I want to
be a better, more civilized person, an
upright citizen, a kinder human being.
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Mini-self
modification experiment
The
mini-self modification
experiment that was
implemented was to improve on
behavior behind the wheel
during the drive through
traffic. This behavior of
getting mad at the way other
people drive, the situation
which occurs daily monday
through friday, of people just
cutting over without knowing
how much room there actually
is. Slamming brakes on, I get
mad at the other person. With
the experiment each time I get
mad for someone cutting me
off, my passenger will notify
me of my anger.
Observation
Everytime
I drive in the morning I drive
through some light traffic to
arrive at school, during this
time I get cut off by another
person driving in the next
lane. The person cutting me
off cuts in without signalling
or when they start cutting
they turn on the signal. In
this experiment I will have my
passenger keep track and
notify me of getting mad.
Reminding me that I should not
get mad at the person, just
keep driving and let it go.
Each day that I drove I
noticed that I did get very
upset each time someone cut me
off forcing me to break. As a
couple times passed I wondered
why I was getting mad, I
noticed that this anger was
against the other person and
the way they were driving.
With this I found myself
thinking more and more that
the person will drive like
this and there is nothing I
can do so why do I upset
myself, just let it pass. This
thinking starting to let
things pass happened about 4
days of being told that I was
being mad.
Conclusion
My
solution to the situation is
that I found that
acknowledging that I get mad
at other people for cutting me
off and just letting it go by
saying to myself that I cannot
control other people. By doing
this I found myself just
ignoring people when they cut
me off, by saying why should
my morning be ruined just
watchout for these people and
give them more space.
I think that using
self-modification of knowing
that I do something wrong or
hazardous and changing the way
I do things allows me to
improve on my driving
everyday. This should be apart
of everyones life because
driving is around us at all
time of the day and everywhere
we look. On a personal note I
think that by self-modifying I
can see that I need to work on
some of the things associated
with driving and this work can
be accomplished by noticing
what is wrong and how it can
be improved.
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Personality
and Behavior
In the early days of
driving at the turn of the century,
psychologists generally believed that
personality is a fixed element, much of
it inherited, that is, attached to the
individual and carried along all day as
we interact with others. But this is no
longer the majority view among
personality experts today. For example,
in his 1982 book, Personality,
Genetics, and Behavior, famed
British psychologist Hans J. Eysenck
notes that known personality factors
such as sociability or temperament, are
not good predictors of behavior. In
other words, a sociable person may act
unsociable in any situation, if the
right combination of circumstances
occur. Or, a cool tempered individual
may all of a sudden start snapping at
others.
Research summarized by
Walter Mischel in his popular textbook Personality
and Behavior, clearly shows that a
person's behavior style is not
consistent, but is influenced by "situation
factors." These may include where
you are and who's present. Applying this
idea to traffic psychology, we can see
that the behavior of motorists is
influenced by both personality and
situation factors. What factors cause a
motorist to drive in a hazardous manner?
It's an interaction between personality
factors such as habit or character and
driving conditions such as traffic or
destination. When you try to get to an
appointment in unexpected heavy traffic,
you are creating a driving condition
full of stress and impatience. Normally
calm and cautious motorists start
driving aggressively and take
hair-raising risks that are totally out
of character with your normal
personality.
Gender
Stereotypes in Driving
Throughout history women
have had a lower status in society. In
our culture, it's more acceptable for
men to behave aggressively and
competitively, especially in their cars.
In traditional society, women are often
portrayed as submissive and passive.
They're expected to be ethical and
compassionate, and to take
responsibility for caring for others.
Driving is often viewed as a masculine
activity that conveys a sense of power
and control over a big machine. Driving
involves adventure, risk-taking,
speeding.
There's a widespread
legend that male drivers are better. Men
began to drive before women. According
to statistics, men as a group still
drive many more miles than women. As
more and more women began to drive,
social stereotypes about women naturally
extended to this new activity. Surveys
show that both men and women
have the tendency to think of men as
better drivers. But this may be changing
as more men begin to appreciate less
aggressive driving conditions. Men's
driving schema in traffic is competitive
while women's is participatory. Women
drivers are more careful and take fewer
chances. They are thus safer and more
proficient. Female drivers tend to be
more polite to passengers, pedestrians,
and other motorists. By contrast, men
exhibit rude behavior and a lack of
self-control. Women tend to have more
respect for authority. They are more
obedient and comply with traffic
regulations. Men tend to be more
opportunistic in their driving; women
are more responsible and orderly. Men
show a greater lack of awareness of the
consequences of their actions in
traffic. Women are more motivated to
care.
It appears from these
observations that men are more
egotistical drivers while women are more
altruistic. Since women show a more
genuine concern and regard for the
welfare of others, they are capable of
being better drivers than men. The
solution to America's driving problems
may depend on male motorists learning to
drive more like women. Since female
drivers are ordinarily more cooperative
and cautious, less accidents would
result. The entire society would benefit
if all motorists would assume the
preferred driving style of women. The
stereotype of women drivers is blown. Of
course it's possible for women drivers
to drive aggressively and enjoy
speeding, as you've seen from what some
female witnesses have reported. They too
need to change.
I'm adding a note here:
recent surveys tend to show that women
are getting to be more like men in their
aggressiveness. Traffic Psychology
Reports on these topics:
Personality
and Insurance
Insurance companies
include gender as one of the factors
that help them establish the
relationship between driver
characteristics and accident risk. Other
driver characteristics are age, accident
record, moving violation record, and
years of driving. These relationships
influence the way insurance premiums are
figured. The effect of age is easier to
assess than that of gender. There is a
substantial correlation between age and
accident rates, with younger drivers in
the 18-24 year grouping having higher
accident rates. However, researchers
have found it difficult to separate out
the various effects involved. For
example, middle-aged drivers who engage
in aggressive risk-taking behaviors have
accident rates even higher than some
young motorists who drive more
conservatively. Psychologists have used
several types of measures in an effort
to assess a driver's risk-taking
tendency -- age, gender, type and age of
car driven, accident and moving
violation record, alcohol consumption
history. A driver's experience is
defined by the number of years driven,
total miles driven, and the types of
roads used -- city streets, rural roads,
freeway, as well as the conditions of
traveling -- rain, snow, and so on.
Researchers attribute the
higher accident rates of younger drivers
to three main factors. First, younger
drivers are more inexperienced, yet have
a tendency to drive more, and so, they
are more exposed to risk. Second, they
are over-confident, so they make more
judgment errors. Third, they have a
tendency to speed and tailgate, which
involves them in a greater number of
accidents. Alcohol is also a causative
factor, but this is a problem that
involves motorists of all ages.
Insurance company
statistics show that the accident rate
among male and female motorists are
significantly different. But the cause
of this difference hasn't been easy to
pinpoint. For instance, the more men as
a group accumulate total miles driven,
the more their overall accident rates
decline. For women, accident rates
decline with the number of years of
accumulated driving rather than with
number of miles driven. Another
pusize="3ling difference: the longer a
male driver goes without having an
accident, the less likely it is that
he'll have another accident.
Conventional wisdom says the opposite --
the longer you've gone without an
accident, the more it's likely that
you'll be having one. For women, the
likelihood of getting into an accident
doesn't depend on how long it's been
since their last accident. Men who have
a record of moving violations are more
likely to get into an accident. Women
who have an accident record are more
likely to get into another one.
These correlational
findings are interesting to read about
but they don't give us a clear
explanation why these differences exist
between men and women drivers. Though
there are significant differences
between the accident proneness of male
and female motorists under different
conditions, it is not clear just what
causes these differences. Male drivers
have more accidents under certain
conditions, which differ for female
drivers. One possibility, as suggested
by self-witnessing reports, is that men
and women drivers differ in how they
collect and process information in
traffic. For example, on a Finger
Tapping Test used by psychologists to
measure muscular control, women perform
slower than men, and the difference
increases with age. On the other hand,
on the Grooved Pegboard Test which
measures hand-eye coordination, women
perform substantially faster. But
educational background is also a
significant factor: better educated
people, of both sexes, are faster than
less educated individuals. Though this
is only a hypothesis, perhaps these
differences do influence our driving
experiences.
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