Numbers refer to percentage of people reporting feeling it on a daily or hourly basis. All are significant except as marked. Percentages are higher if you include the weekly category--see the full results here

About 21 percent of people--one in five, have the experience of enjoying fantasies of violence on a daily or hourly basis. Of these people, 6 percent are women and 15 percent are men. Thus, twice as many men as women enjoy fantasies of violence on a frequent and regular basis (hourly or daily). (item 12)

Somewhat more men feel impatient with others than women on an hourly basis (14 percent vs. 10 percent), or on a daily basis (48 percent vs. 45 percent). About 10 percent of men and women report never or rarely feeling impatient with others. Women are expected to be more patient than men as social norm, but these results show that the majority of women feel impatient with others (55 percent) on a daily or hourly basis (and 62 percent for men). (item 17)

Men outnumber women in wanting to be obnoxious or rude to someone on a regular basis--hourly or daily (45 percent vs. 36 percent). This means that one in three women (36 percent) and almost half of all men (45 percent)  feel like being rude to someone on a daily or hourly basis. (item 20)

One in ten women (10 percent) feel like denigrating someone on an hourly basis, thinking of them as dumb, stupid, an idiot. Even a higher percentage of men do so on an hourly basis (16 percent). On a daily or hourly basis, 45 percent of women and 60 percent of men feel like calling someone an idiot or some such derogatory epithet. (item 22)

About 13 percent of women feel like insulting someone on an hourly or daily basis, and 23 percent of men, or almost one in 4, feel that way. Almost twice as many men as women feel like humiliating or disrespecting someone on daily or hourly basis (23 percent vs. 13 percent). Seven (item 24)

About 16 percent of women feel criticized, picked on or bullied on an hourly or daily basis, while 14 percent of men, feel that way. The main difference between men and women on this item is how many say they rarely feel bullied or picked on: 55 percent of women, but 63 percent of men. There is a slight but significant difference (14 percent vs. 11 percent) in feeling bullied every day: 14 percent of women vs. 11 percent of men. About 19 percent of women and 21 percent of men say they feel like bullying someone on a recurrent basis (weekly, daily, or hourly)--this is item 28, not shown because the significance level is insufficient for the difference between men and women (p=.07 and .05 is the normal cut off point, so it's pretty close). In other words, one in five people--both men and women--feel like bullying someone on a regular basis. (item 27)

About 23 percent of women and 20 percent of men feel emotionally out of control on a daily or hourly basis. Only 46 percent of women and 57 percent of men say they rarely or never feel disturbed enough to be out of control emotionally. In other words, about half of our population feels disturbed and emotionally out of control on a recurrent basis--weekly, daily, or hourly: 54 percent of women and 47 percent of men. (item 31)

About 13 percent of women and 18 percent of men feel angry on a regular basis (daily or hourly) because someone tries to stop them from doing what they want. About one in four people (27 percent) feel angry on a weekly basis because someone tries to stop them from doing what they want: 26 percent of women and 29 percent of men).  (item 34)

About 15 percent of women and 11 percent of men feel angry on a regular basis (daily or hourly) because someone tries to hurt their feelings. About one in three women (38 percent) feel angry on a weekly basis because someone tries to hurt their feelings (31 percent of men). (item 36)

Only about 8 percent of women and 8 percent of men feel angry on a regular basis (daily or hourly) because someone has talked badly about them behind their back, and about 75 percent (men and women) feel they never or rarely feel angry for this cause. About 15 percent of women and 19 percent of men feel angry on a weekly basis because someone tries to vilify them behind their back (item 37)

About 17 percent of women but 23 percent of men, experience fault finding, score keeping, and being critical of everyone on a regular basis (daily or hourly). If you combine the three answer types, half of women (49 percent) and the majority of men (58 percent) regularly feel critical of everyone--weekly, daily, or hourly. (item 50)

About 33 percent of women, but 40 percent of men, experience ruminating, exaggerating, or sulking on a recurrent basis (weekly, daily, or hourly). More women than men say they rarely or never experience it (67 percent vs. 60 percent). (item 53)

There is a statistically significant difference between men and women in their tendency to retaliate when being angry or provoked. More men than women confess to this tendency (24 percent vs. 18 percent--item 57).

Similarly, more men than women say they lose control of their behavior when they feel angry (28 percent vs. 22 percent--item 66).

More men say that anger interferes with their thinking than women (54 percent vs. 46 percent--item 67).

More men say that they worry about losing control of their anger (36 percent vs. 24 percent--item 68). 

More men say that they will hit back if somebody hits them (64 percent vs. 47 percent--item 70). 

More men say that they get into arguments when people disagree with them (25 percent vs. 19 percent--item 71).

More men say that their friends consider them hotheads (21 percent vs. 16 percent--item 72). 

More men say that they have purposely damaged property belonging to someone else (22 percent vs. 14 percent--item 68). 

It is clear that more men than women confess to a pattern of aggressiveness. (several items as indicated above).

In general, younger people report enjoying fantasies of violence more frequently than older people. For instance, 17 percent of people nineteen or less are enjoying fantasies of violence on a daily or hourly basis, vs. 12 percent for people between twenty and thirty-five, and 6 percent for people aged thirty-six to fifty-five. Only 2 percent of older people (fifty-six to fifty-nine) enjoy  fantasies of violence on a daily basis. (item 12)

There is a statistically significant difference between age groups in how often they feel impatient with others. Younger people report feeling impatient with others more frequently than older people. For instance, 63 percent of people nineteen or less and 66 percent of people twenty to thirty-five feel impatient with others on a daily or hourly basis vs. 51 percent of people thirty-six to fifty-five and 42 percent for people fifty-six to fifty-nine. (item 17)

Younger people report feeling like being rude, obnoxious or sarcastic to someone more frequently than older people. For instance, about 60 percent of people younger than nineteen and 48 percent of people aged twenty to thirty-five feel like being rude, obnoxious or sarcastic to someone on a daily or hourly basis. Only 24 percent of people aged thirty-six to fifty-five feel like being rude, and only 11 percent for people aged fifty-six to fifty-nine. Clearly, as people get older they feel less and less like being rude, obnoxious or sarcastic to someone. (item 20)

Younger people report feeling on a daily or hourly basis that others are stupid, dumb, an idiot, etc. more frequently than older people. For instance, about 64 percent of people younger than nineteen, vs. 57 percent of people aged twenty to thirty-five feel that others are stupid, dumb, an idiot, etc.on a daily or hourly basis. Only about 42 percent of people aged thirty-six and older feel that way. Clearly, as people get older they feel less and less that others are stupid or dumb. (item 22)

Younger people report feeling humiliated, disrespected or insulted by someone more frequently than older people. For instance, about 35 percent of people younger than nineteen, vs. 30 percent of people aged twenty to thirty-five feel humiliated, disrespected or insulted by someone on a daily or hourly basis. Only about 15 percent of people aged thirty-six to fifty-five and 8 percent of people aged fifty-six and older, feel that way. Clearly, as people get older they feel less and less humiliated, disrespected or insulted by someone on a regular basis. (item 23)

Younger people report feeling that they want to humiliate, disrespect or insult someone more frequently than older people. For instance, about 34 percent of people younger than nineteen, vs.19 percent of people aged twenty to thirty-five feel like humiliating, disrespecting or insulting someone on a daily or hourly basis. Only about 9 percent of people aged thirty-six to fifty-five and 4 percent of people aged fifty-six and older, feel that way. Clearly, as people get older they feel less and less like humiliating, disrespecting or insulting someone on a regular basis. (item 24)

Younger people report feeling annoyed, bothered, irritable or upset more frequently than older people. For instance, about 56 percent of people up to age thirty-five feel annoyed, bothered, irritable or upset on a daily or hourly basis, vs. about 37 percent of people aged thirty-six and older. Clearly, as people get older they feel less and less annoyed, bothered, irritable or upset. (item 25)

Younger people report feeling used, ill-treated, taken advantage of more frequently than older people. For instance, about 28 percent of people who are nineteen or less feel used, ill-treated, taken advantage of on a daily or hourly basis, vs. about 24 percent of people aged twenty to thirty-five. About 21 percent of people aged thirty-six to fifty-five feel that way, and only 17 percent of people aged fifty-six to fifty-nine. Clearly, as people get older they feel less used, ill-treated, taken advantage of. (item 26)

Younger people report feeling criticized, picked on or bullied more frequently than older people. For instance, about 23 percent of people who are nineteen or less feel criticized, picked on or bullied on a daily or hourly basis, vs. about 16 percent of people aged twenty to thirty-five. About 11 percent of people aged thirty-six to fifty-five feel that way, and only 8 percent of people aged fifty-six to fifty-nine. Clearly, as people get older they feel less and less criticized, picked on or bullied. (item 27)

Younger people report feeling like picking on or bullying someone more frequently than older people. For instance, about 17 percent of people who are nineteen or less feel like picking on or bullying someone on a daily or hourly basis, vs. about 6 percent of people aged twenty to thirty-five. Only about 4 percent of people aged thirty-six to fifty-five feel that way, and 2 percent of people aged fifty-six to fifty-nine. Clearly, as people get older they feel less and less like picking on or bullying someone. (item 28)

Younger people report feeling like they have no control over their emotions and being disturbed about things more frequently than older people. The percent of people who feel this on a recurrent basis--weekly, daily or hourly, goes down with each age group: 59 percent (under nineteen years), 55 percent (ages twenty to thirty-five), 38 percent (ages thirty-six to fifty-five), 30 percent (ages fifty-six to fifty-nine). (item 31)

Younger people report that they feel angry because someone tries to stop them from doing what they want more frequently than older people. The percent of people who feel this on a recurrent basis--weekly, daily or hourly, goes down with each age group: 65 percent (under nineteen years), 46 percent (ages twenty to thirty-five), 28 percent (ages thirty-six to fifty-five), 31 percent (ages fifty-six to fifty-nine). One in three people (31 percent) under age nineteen feel angry because they are being interfered with on a daily or hourly basis vs. only 16 percent for people aged twenty to thirty-five, and even less frequently (7 percent) for people aged thirty-six and above. ( item 34)

Younger people more often than older people report that they feel angry because someone is being inconsiderate or unfair to them. The percent of people who feel this on a recurrent basis--weekly, daily or hourly, goes down with each age group: 75 percent (under nineteen years), 71 percent (ages twenty to thirty-five), 58 percent (ages thirty-six to fifty-five), 50 percent (ages fifty-six to fifty-nine). One in three people (34 percent) under age nineteen feel angry because they are being interfered with on a daily or hourly basis vs. only 23 percent for people aged twenty to thirty-five, and even less frequently (14 percent) for people aged thirty-six to fifty-five. (item 35)

Younger people more often than older people report that they feel angry because someone hurt their feelings. The percent of people who feel this on a recurrent basis--weekly, daily or hourly, goes down with each age group: 65 percent (under nineteen years), 48 percent (ages twenty to thirty-five), 37 percent (ages thirty-six to fifty-five), 32 percent (ages fifty-six to fifty-nine). About 28 percent of people under age nineteen feel angry because someone hurts their feelings on a daily or hourly basis vs. only 12 percent for people aged twenty to thirty-five, and even less frequently (6 percent) for people aged thirty-six to fifty-five. (item 36)

Younger people more often than older people report that they feel angry because someone vilified them by talking behind their back. The percent of people who feel this on a recurrent basis--weekly, daily or hourly, goes down with each age group: 43 percent (under nineteen years), 25 percent (ages twenty to thirty-five), 14 percent (ages thirty-six to fifty-five), 4 percent (ages fifty-six to fifty-nine). (item 37)

The mean for each age group in fault finding, score keeping, being critical of everyone on a daily or hourly basis is:   26 percent for nineteen year olds (one in four), 23 percent for those between twenty to thirty-five (one in four), 15 percent for those between thirty-six and fifty-five (one in seven), and 10 percent for those between fifty-six to sixty-nine (one in ten). There is therefore a decrease of being over-critical as one gets older. (item 50)

The mean for each age group in fault finding, score keeping, being critical of everyone on a daily or hourly basis is:   25 percent for nineteen year olds (one in four), 25 percent for those between twenty to thirty-five (one in four), 17 percent for those between thirty-six and fifty-five (one in six), and 21 percent for those between fifty-six to sixty-nine (one in five). There (item 51)

The mean for each age group in experiencing ruminating, exaggerating, sulking on a daily or hourly basis is:  14 percent for nineteen year olds, 10 percent for those between twenty to thirty-five, 6 percent for those between thirty-six and fifty-five, and 6 percent for those between fifty-six to sixty-nine. Thus, more young people report ruminating and sulking than older people. (item 53)

More young people believe that it's not their fault if they retaliate when someone pushes their buttons than older people. The mean for each age group in thinking that it's not their fault if they retaliate when their buttons are pushed is:  38 percent for nineteen year olds and younger, 23 percent for those between twenty to thirty-five, 10 percent for those between thirty-six and fifty-five, and 8 percent for those between fifty-six to sixty-nine. Thus, as people get older they believe less and less that it's good to retaliate. (item 57)

More young people report throwing things, slamming doors or banging things. The mean for each age group is:  62 percent for nineteen year olds and younger, 53 percent for those between twenty to thirty-five, 43 percent for those between thirty-six and fifty-five, and 42 percent for those between fifty-six to sixty-nine. Thus, as people get older fewer throw things, slam doors or bang things. (item 61)

More young people believe that temper is helpful to get what you want than older people. The mean for each age group is:  17 percent for nineteen year olds and younger, 15 percent for those between twenty to thirty-five, 9 percent for those between thirty-six and fifty-five, and 8 percent for those between fifty-six to sixty-nine. Thus, as people get older fewer believe that temper is helpful to get what you want. However, the vast majority of people do not believe this (83 to 92 percent, depending on age). (item 62)

More of the older people report that they regret acting in anger than younger people--81 percent for people thirty-five or younger, and 89 percent for people 36 or older. (item 63)

More of the younger people report that they curse or say nasty things in anger than older people. The mean for each age group is:   61 percent for nineteen year olds and younger, 50 percent for those between twenty to thirty-five, 44 percent for those between thirty-six and fifty-five, and 42 percent for those between fifty-six to sixty-nine. (item 64)

More of the younger people report that they are obsessed when angry than older people. The mean for each age group is:  63 percent for nineteen year olds and younger, 58 percent for those between twenty to thirty-five, 42 percent for those between thirty-six and fifty-five, and 36 percent for those between fifty-six to sixty-nine. Thus, the older people get the less they are obsessed by anger. (item 65)

More of the younger people report that they want to push or shove people when angry than older people. The mean for each age group is:  45 percent for nineteen year olds and younger, 28 percent for those between twenty to thirty-five, 19 percent for those between thirty-six and fifty-five, and 8 percent for those between fifty-six to sixty-nine. Thus, the older people get the less they want to shove or push people when angry. (item 69)

More of the younger people report that they want to hit back when someone hits them. than older people. The mean for each age group is:  67 percent for nineteen year olds and younger, 61 percent for those between twenty to thirty-five, 45 percent for those between thirty-six and fifty-five, and 40 percent for those between fifty-six to sixty-nine. Thus, the older people get the less they want to hit back when they are attacked. (item 70)

More of the younger people report that they want to get into arguments when people disagree with them than older people. The mean for each age group is:  38 percent for nineteen year olds and younger, 24 percent for those between twenty to thirty-five, 10 percent for those between thirty-six and fifty-five, and 17 percent for those between fifty-six to sixty-nine. (item 71)

More of the younger people report that they have purposely damaged property belonging to someone else while they were angry than older people. The mean for each age group is:  32 percent for nineteen year olds and younger, 18 percent for those between twenty to thirty-five, 13 percent for those between thirty-six and fifty-five, and 2 percent for those between fifty-six to sixty-nine. (item 73)

More people with only a high school education (14 percent) enjoying fantasizing violence on a regular basis--weekly, daily or hourly than those with a college background (11 percent), or those with a graduate school background (7 percent). It appears from this evidence that more educated people are less prone to violence fantasies. (item 12)

how often people experience impatience on a daily or hourly basis, more of it being reported by those with less education: 63 percent for those with only a high school background, 59 percent for college educated people, 54 percent for those with graduate school background. Adding all three categories--weekly, daily, hourly, few people rarely or never experience impatience on a recurrent basis (about 10 percent). (item 17)

how often people experience feeling on a daily or hourly basis, like being rude, obnoxious or sarcastic to someone, with more people reporting this who have less education: 54 percent for those with only a high school background, 38 percent for college educated people, 29 percent for those with graduate school background. Adding all three categories--weekly, daily, hourly, the number of people who report feeling like being rude and obnoxious on a recurrent basis is 77 percent (high school background), 71 percent (college background), and 67 percent (graduate school background). (item 20)

There is a statistically significant effect of educational background on how often people experience feeling on a daily or hourly basis that others are stupid, dumb, or an idiot, with more people reporting this who have less education: 61 percent for those with only a high school background, 52 percent for college educated people, 43 percent for those with graduate school background. Adding all three categories--weekly, daily, hourly, the number of people who report feeling like someone else is stupid, dumb, or an idiot on a recurrent basis is: 87 percent (high school background), 85 percent (college background), and 81 percent (graduate school background). In all, the vast majority of our population regularly feels like someone else is an idiot (between 81 and 87 percent). (item 22)

how often people experience on a daily or hourly basis that they have been humiliated, disrespected or insulted by someone, with more people reporting this who have less education: 32 percent for those with only a high school background, 19 percent for college educated people, 14 percent for those with graduate school background. Adding all three categories--weekly, daily, hourly, the number of people who report that they have been humiliated, disrespected or insulted by someone: 62 percent (high school background), 52 percent (college background), and 48 percent (graduate school background). In all, the majority of our population regularly feels humiliated, disrespected or insulted by someone. (item 23)

how often people experience on a daily or hourly basis that they want to humiliate, disrespect or insult someone, with more people reporting this who have less education: 28 percent for those with only a high school background, 16 percent for college educated people, 10 percent for those with graduate school background. Adding all three categories--weekly, daily, hourly, the number of people who report that they want to humiliate, disrespect or insult someone is: 47 percent (high school background), 35 percent (college background), and 30 percent (graduate school background). (item 24)

how often people experience on a daily or hourly basis that they are being criticized, picked on or bullied, with more people reporting this who have less education: 23 percent for those with only a high school background, 14 percent for college educated people, 8 percent for those with graduate school background. Adding all three categories--weekly, daily, hourly, the number of people who report that they feel criticized, picked on or bullied is: 49 percent (or half of all people with a high school background), 39 percent (one in three with a college background), and 38 percent (one in three with a graduate school background).(item 27)

feeling like picking on or bullying someone , with more people reporting this who have less education: 14 percent for those with only a high school background, 6 percent for college educated people, 3 percent for those with graduate school background. Adding all three categories--weekly, daily, hourly, the number of people who report that they feel like picking on or bullying someone is: 29 percent (high school background), 18 percent (college background), and 14 percent (graduate school background). (item 28)

how often people experience on a daily or hourly basis that have no control over their emotions: 26 percent for those with only a high school background, 20 percent for college educated people, 19 percent for those with graduate school background. Adding all three categories--weekly, daily, hourly, the number of people who report that they have no control over their emotions is: 57 percent (high school background), 48 percent (college background), and 42 percent (graduate school background). This evidence shows that education provides an advantage against this feeling. In general, about half of the population recurrently has the feeling that they are emotionally out of control. (item 31)

how often people experience on a daily or hourly basis feeling angry because someone tries to stop them from doing what they want: 25 percent for those with only a high school background, 13 percent for college educated people, 10 percent for those with graduate school background. Adding all three categories--weekly, daily, hourly, the number of people who report feeling angry because someone tries to stop them from doing what they want is: 58 percent (high school background), 39 percent (college background), and 36 percent (graduate school background). Education seems to provide somewhat of an antidote for feeling the frustration of being interfered with on a regular basis. (item 34)

how often people experience on a daily or hourly basis feeling angry because someone is inconsiderate or unfair to them: 27 percent for those with only a high school background, 21 percent for college educated people, 20 percent for those with graduate school background. Adding all three categories--weekly, daily, hourly, the number of people who report feeling angry because someone is inconsiderate or unfair to them is: 69 percent (high school background), 66 percent (college background), and 62 percent (graduate school background). (item 35)

how often people experience on a daily or hourly basis feeling angry when someone hurts their feelings: 22 percent for those with only a high school background, 11 percent for college educated people, 8 percent for those with graduate school background. Education has a strong effect on this type of anger: twice as many high school educated individuals experience this on a daily or hourly basis as college educated people, and three times as many as those with a graduate school background. Still, almost half of the population report rarely or never having this type of anger: 41 percent (high school background), 57 percent (college background), and 57 percent (graduate school background). (item 36)

how often people experience on a daily or hourly basis feeling angry when someone talks badly about them behind their back: 16 percent for those with only a high school background, 5 percent for college educated people, 5 percent for those with graduate school background. Education has a strong effect on this type of anger: three times as many high school educated individuals experience this on a daily or hourly basis as college educated people and those with a graduate school background. Still, the majority of the population report rarely or never having this type of anger: 60 percent (high school background), 81 percent (college background), and 79 percent (graduate school background). (item 37)

how often people experience feeling restless, pent-up, up-tight on a daily or hourly basis: 26 percent for those with only a high school background, 20 percent for college educated people, 20 percent for those with graduate school background. Combining over weekly, daily, hourly: 54 percent (high school background), 60 percent (college background), and 62 percent (graduate school background). A substantial proportion of the population report they rarely or never experience feeling restless, pent-up, up-tight: 46 percent (high school background), 40 percent (college background), and 38 percent (graduate school background). (item 51)

how often people experience ruminating, exaggerating, sulking on a daily or hourly basis: 11 percent for those with only a high school background, 10 percent for college educated people, 6 percent for those with graduate school background. Combining over weekly, daily, hourly: 39 percent (high school background), 34 percent (college background), and 38 percent (graduate school background). A majority of the population report they rarely or never experience ruminating, exaggerating, sulking: 61 percent (high school background), 66 percent (college background), and 62 percent (graduate school background). (item 53)

For people's anger theory and pattern in relation to education, see results here

About 21 percent of women and 18 percent of men feel inadequate,   incompetent, or defective on a daily or hourly basis. A slight majority (52 percent of women and 60 percent of men) say they rarely or never feel inadequate or incompetent. In other words, about half of our population feels inadequate, defective, or incompetent on a recurrent basis--weekly, daily, or hourly: 48 percent of women and 40 percent of men. (item 32)

One in four women (25 percent) and even a higher percent of men (30 percent) are experiencing difficulty on a regular basis (daily or hourly) in making decisions, completing tasks, or distractedness. The majority of the population (63 percent of women and 57 percent of men) experience distractedness or difficulty in making decisions and completing tasks on a recurrent basis (weekly, daily, hourly). (item 40)

One in five women (20 percent) and even a higher percent of men (24 percent) are experiencing pessimism and fear about the future on a regular basis (daily or hourly). If you combine recurrent feelings (weekly, daily, and hourly), half of the population say they experience expecting the worst, constantly fearful of what might happen, and being pessimistic (46 percent of women and 49 percent of men). (item 41)

About 13 percent of women and even a higher percent of men (19 percent) are experiencing feeling alienated, disconnected, demoralized, disillusioned, neglected, and rejected on a regular basis (daily or hourly). Two in three people do not feel this (about 61 percent), but the remaining one third of the population experience these negative feelings on a recurrent basis--weekly, daily, or hourly. About 1 in 10 people experience these feelings daily (10 percent of women and 13 percent of men). (item 42)

About one in three women (37 percent) and one in four men (25 percent) experience frequent crying, feeling miserable, feeling sorry for self on a regular basis--weekly, daily, or hourly. (item 45)

About two in three women (65 percent) and almost half of all men (44 percent) experience feeling dumpy, ugly, unattractive. About 30 percent of women feel unattractive on a daily or hourly basis, but only 20 percent of men. While only 35 percent of women rarely or never feel unattractive, the majority of men (56 percent) say they rarely or never feel unattractive. (item 49)

About one in three people (34 percent of women and 30 percent of men) experience excessive sorrow, grief, guilt, self-blame on a recurrent basis (weekly, daily, or hourly). More men than women say they rarely or never experience it (70 percent vs. 66 percent). (item 52)

Younger people report feeling discouraged or depressed more frequently than older people. Up to age thirty-five about one in three people (31 percent) report feeling discouraged or depressed daily or hourly. From age thirty-six to fifty-five about 20 percent report feeling discouraged or depressed on a daily or hourly basis. From age fifty-six to fifty-nine about 25 percent feel this way. The percentage of people who report rarely or never to feel depressed varies from 27 percent for the twenty to thirty-five age group to 38 percent for the thirty-six to fifty-five age group. The evidence here is that the older people get the less depression they report--which may not fit society's current stereotype!  (item 29)

Younger people report feeling like a loser for not speaking up--more frequently than older people. The percent of people who feel this on a recurrent basis--weekly, daily or hourly, goes down with each age group: 51 percent (under nineteen years), 42 percent (ages twenty to thirty-five), 34 percent (ages thirty-six to fifty-five), 8 percent (ages fifty-six to fifty-nine). (item 30)

Younger people report that they feel incompetent, inadequate or defective more frequently than older people. The percent of people who feel this on a recurrent basis--weekly, daily or hourly, goes down with each age group: 51 percent (under nineteen years), 49 percent (ages twenty to thirty-five), 35 percent (ages thirty-six to fifty-five), 37 percent (ages fifty-six to fifty-nine). The majority of young people up to nineteen feel that there must be something wrong with them. One in four of them (27 percent) have this feeling daily or hourly. But this is also true of people 56 and older (23 percent). (item 32)

Younger people report that they feel worthless more frequently than older people. The percent of people who feel this on a recurrent basis--weekly, daily or hourly, goes down with each age group: 37 percent (under nineteen years), 27 percent (ages twenty to thirty-five), 23 percent (ages thirty-six to fifty-five), 26 percent (ages fifty-six to fifty-nine). (item 33)

Younger people more often than older people report that they feel shame on a regular basis. The percent of people who feel this on a recurrent basis--weekly, daily or hourly, goes down with each age group: 40 percent (under nineteen years), 31 percent (ages twenty to thirty-five), 22 percent (ages thirty-six to fifty-five), 19 percent (ages fifty-six to fifty-nine).  (The sample for seventy and above is too small for conclusions.) (item 38)

Younger people more often than older people report that they feel fatigued and downcast. The percent of people who feel this on a daily or hourly, goes down with each age group: 28 percent (under nineteen years), 21 percent (ages twenty to thirty-five), 17 percent (ages thirty-six to fifty-five), 17 percent (ages fifty-six to fifty-nine). (item 39)

Younger people more often than older people report that they feel difficulty in making decisions, completing tasks, distractedness. The percent of people who feel this on a daily or hourly, goes down with each age group: 42 percent (under nineteen years), 33 percent (ages twenty to thirty-five), 18 percent (ages thirty-six to fifty-five), 17 percent (ages fifty-six to fifty-nine). (item 40)

Younger people more often than older people report that they are expecting the worst, being constantly fearful of what might happen, pessimistic. For instance, about 20 percent of people up to age thirty-five are fearful and pessimistic on a daily basis vs. about 13 percent for people thirty-six and older. Among the younger people (up to age thirty-five) about 47 percent report never or rarely feeling this way while about 62 percent of people thirty-six and older rarely or never feel this way. (item 41)

Younger people more often than older people report that they are expecting the worst, being constantly fearful of what might happen, pessimistic. For instance, about 13 percent of people up to age thirty-five feel alienated, demoralized, rejected on a daily basis vs. about 9 percent for people thirty-six and older. Among the youngest group (nineteen or less) 8 percent report feeling this on an hourly basis. Up to age thirty-five between 53 percent and 59 percent of people rarely or never feel this way, vs. 34 percent for people thirty-six and older. (item 42)

Younger people more often than older people report that they experience being dejected, melancholy, sad. For instance, about 24 percent of people (one in four) up to age thirty-five feel being dejected, melancholy, sad on a daily or hourly basis vs. about 11 to 17 percent for people thirty-six and older. (item 43)

Younger people more often than older people report feeling like a failure, diminished self-esteem, ineffectual, powerless on a regular basis. For instance, about 18 percent of people under nineteen and 15 percent of people aged twenty to thirty-five feel this way on a daily or hourly basis vs. only 12 percent for people after age thirty-five. As people get older they feel less and less powerless or like a failure: for under nineteen year olds--43 percent; for those aged between twenty to thirty-five--42 percent; for those aged thirty-six to fifty-five--32 percent; and for those over age fifty-six--28 percent. (item 44)

The youngest and the oldest people report frequent crying, feeling miserable, feeling sorry for self on a regular basis, more so than middle aged people. This is called a curvilinear relation. The mean for each age group for feeling this way on a daily or hourly basis is: 14 percent (for those aged nineteen or less), 9 percent (for those aged twenty to thirty-five), 6 percent (for those aged thirty-six to fifty-five), and 10 percent for those aged above fifty-six.  (item 45)

Here is the mean for each age group in how many people report gloom or dread on a recurrent basis--weekly, daily, or hourly:   for those under nineteen years old--about 41 percent report feeling this way (almost one in two); for those between ages twenty to thirty-five--about 34 percent report feeling this way (one in three); for those aged thirty-six and above--about 28 percent feel gloom and dread on a recurrent basis (one in four). (item 46)

About 70 percent of younger people up to age thirty-five experience lack of enthusiasm, having the blues, feeling dull, bored on a recurrent basis--weekly, daily, or hourly, vs. 55 percent for those older than thirty-five. On a daily or hourly basis, twice as many younger people (up to age thirty-five) report having the blues and feeling dull than those who are older than thirty-five. The mean for each age group for feeling the blues daily or hourly is as follows: for those under nineteen years old--about 33 percent report feeling this way (one in three); for those between ages twenty to thirty-five--about 28 percent; for those aged thirty-six and above--about 15 percent feel gloom and dread on a recurrent basis. (item 47)

About 54 percent of younger people up to age thirty-five experience being hopeless, of low spirits, despondent, cheerless on a recurrent basis--weekly, daily, or hourly, vs. 35 percent for those older than thirty-five. On a daily or hourly basis, fewer middle aged people (between thirty-six and fifty-five) report having the blues and feeling dull (9 percent) than those who are either younger (19 and 14 percent) or older (15 percent). This is called a curvilinear relation. (item 48)

More of the younger people report feeling dumpy, ugly, unattractive than the older people. The mean for each age group in feeling dumpy, ugly, unattractive on a daily or hourly basis is:  31 percent for nineteen year olds (one in three), 28 percent for those between twenty to thirty-five (one in four), 20 percent for those between thirty-six and fifty-five (one in five), and 16 percent for those between fifty-six to sixty-nine. (item 49)

The mean for each age group in experiencing excessive sorrow, grief, guilt, self-blame on a daily or hourly basis is:  16 percent for nineteen year olds, 10 percent for those between twenty to thirty-five, 7 percent for those between thirty-six and fifty-five, and 11 percent for those between fifty-six to sixty-nine. There is therefore a curvilinear relationship between age and feeling pent-up. The most pent-up groups are the young (up to age thirty-five) of whom about 38 percent report guilt and self-blame, vs. 25 percent for those older than 35. (item 52)

how often people experience on a daily or hourly basis that they are feeling like a big loser for not saying something after being taken advantage of: 17 percent for those with only a high school background, 12 percent for college educated people, 8 percent for those with graduate school background. Adding all three categories--weekly, daily, hourly, the number of people who report that they feel like a big loser for not saying something after being taken advantage of is: 48 percent (high school background), 39 percent (college background), and 35 percent (graduate school background). This evidence shows that education provides an advantage against this feeling. (item 30)

how often people experience on a daily or hourly basis that they are incompetent, inadequate or defective: 28 percent for those with only a high school background, 17 percent for college educated people, 17 percent for those with graduate school background. Adding all three categories--weekly, daily, hourly, the number of people who report feeling incompetent, inadequate or defective is: 52 percent (high school background), 41 percent (college background), and 41 percent (graduate school background). This evidence shows that in general, about half of the population recurrently has the feeling that they are incompetent, inadequate or defective. (item 32)

how often people experience on a daily or hourly basis that they are worthless or that life is not worth all the misery and pain: 18 percent for those with only a high school background, 10 percent for college educated people, 9 percent for those with graduate school background. Adding all three categories--weekly, daily, hourly, the number of people who report feeling worthless or that life is not worth all the misery and pain is: 37 percent (high school background), 25 percent (college background), and 25 percent (graduate school background). (item 33)

how often people experience shame on a daily or hourly basis: 11 percent for those with only a high school background, 8 percent for college educated people, 7 percent for those with graduate school background. Combining over weekly, daily, hourly: 35 percent (high school background), 27 percent (college background), and 28 percent (graduate school background). The majority of people report they rarely or never have shame: 65 percent (high school background), 73 percent (college background), and 72 percent (graduate school background). (item 38)

how often people experience a depressed mood, constant fatigue, feeling downcast on a daily or hourly basis: 11 percent for those with only a high school background, 8 percent for college educated people, 7 percent for those with graduate school background. Combining over weekly, daily, hourly: 35 percent (high school background), 27 percent (college background), and 28 percent (graduate school background). The majority of people report they rarely or never experience a depressed mood, constant fatigue, feeling downcast: 65 percent (high school background), 73 percent (college background), and 72 percent (graduate school background). (item 39)

how often people experience difficulty in making decisions, completing tasks, distractedness on a daily or hourly basis: 32 percent for those with only a high school background, 28 percent for college educated people, 26 percent for those with graduate school background. Combining over weekly, daily, hourly: 64 percent (high school background), 58 percent (college background), and 61 percent (graduate school background). A substantial proportion of the population report they rarely or never experience difficulty in making decisions, completing tasks, distractedness: 36 percent (high school background), 42 percent (college background), and 39 percent (graduate school background). (item 40)

how often people experience being dejected, melancholy, sad on a daily or hourly basis: 22 percent for those with only a high school background, 16 percent for college educated people, 11 percent for those with graduate school background. Combining over weekly, daily, hourly: 53 percent (high school background), 49 percent (college background), and 51 percent (graduate school background). About half of the population report they rarely or never experience being dejected, melancholy, sad: 47 percent (high school background), 51 percent (college background), and 49 percent (graduate school background). (item 43)

how often people experience frequent crying, feeling miserable, feeling sorry for self on a daily or hourly basis: 13 percent for those with only a high school background, 8 percent for college educated people, 6 percent for those with graduate school background. Combining over weekly, daily, hourly: 38 percent (high school background), 29 percent (college background), and 26 percent (graduate school background). A majority of the population report they rarely or never experience frequent crying, feeling miserable, feeling sorry for self: 62 percent (high school background), 71 percent (college background), and 74 percent (graduate school background). (item 45)

how often people experience lack of enthusiasm, having the blues, dull, bored on a daily or hourly basis: 29 percent for those with only a high school background, 24 percent for college educated people, 16 percent for those with graduate school background. Combining over weekly, daily, hourly: 67 percent (high school background), 63 percent (college background), and 60 percent (graduate school background). A third of the population report they rarely or never experience lack of enthusiasm, having the blues, dull, bored: 33 percent (high school background), 37 percent (college background), and 40 percent (graduate school background). (item 47)

how often people experience feeling hopeless, low spirits, despondent, cheerless on a daily or hourly basis: 15 percent for those with only a high school background, 13 percent for college educated people, 9 percent for those with graduate school background. Combining over weekly, daily, hourly: 45 percent (high school background), 39 percent (college background), and 38 percent (graduate school background). A majority of the population report they rarely or never experience feeling hopeless, low spirits, despondent, cheerless: 55 percent (high school background), 61 percent (college background), and 62 percent (graduate school background). (item 48)

how often people experience feeling dumpy, ugly, unattractive on a daily or hourly basis: 31 percent for those with only a high school background, 24 percent for college educated people, 20 percent for those with graduate school background. Combining over weekly, daily, hourly: 63 percent (high school background), 53 percent (college background), and 48 percent (graduate school background). A substantial proportion of the population report they rarely or never experience feeling dumpy, ugly, unattractive: 37 percent (high school background), 47 percent (college background), and 52 percent (graduate school background). (item 49)

how often people experience feeling sorrow, grief, guilt, self-blame on a daily or hourly basis: 14 percent for those with only a high school background, 10 percent for college educated people, 7 percent for those with graduate school background. Combining over weekly, daily, hourly: 39 percent (high school background), 30 percent (college background), and 28 percent (graduate school background). A majority of the population report they rarely or never experience feeling sorrow, grief, guilt, self-blame: 61 percent (high school background), 70 percent (college background), and 72 percent (graduate school background). (item 52)

how often people experience suicidal thoughts on a daily or hourly basis: 8 percent for those with only a high school background, 2 percent for college educated people, 3 percent for those with graduate school background. Combining over weekly, daily, hourly: 16 percent (high school background), 10 percent (college background), and 9 percent (graduate school background). The vast majority of the population report they rarely or never experience suicidal thoughts: 84 percent (high school background), 90 percent (college background), and 91 percent (graduate school background). (item 54)

Young people are more hopeful and enthusiastic about the future than older people. The mean for each age group in experiencing being hopeful, optimistic or enthusiastic about the future on a daily or hourly basis is:   51 percent for nineteen year olds and younger, 47 percent for those between twenty to thirty-five, 43 percent for those between thirty-six and fifty-five, and 44 percent for those between fifty-six to sixty-nine. (item 55)

how often people experience being hopeful, optimistic or enthusiastic about their future on a daily or hourly basis: 46 percent for those with only a high school background, 46 percent for college educated people, 46 percent for those with graduate school background. Combining over weekly, daily, hourly: 81 percent (high school background), 83 percent (college background), and 88 percent (graduate school background). A small proportion of the population report they rarely or never experience being hopeful, optimistic or enthusiastic about your future: 19 percent (high school background), 17 percent (college background), and 12 percent (graduate school background). (item 55)

Monitoring Your Own Emotional Spin Cycle:

Consult details, instructions, charts  in this article

All individuals are socialized in accordance with cultural norms. To be socialized means to acquire particular habits in the three areas of human functioning:

• habits of feeling (AFFECTIVE DOMAIN OF BEHAVIOR)

• habits of thinking (COGNITIVE DOMAIN OF BEHAVIOR)

• habits of acting (SENSORI-MOTOR DOMAIN OF BEHAVIOR)

Every individual has a threefold-self in which the three parts function together, yet each can be distinguished and isolated for observation and self-modification.

The threefold-self has two arenas to function in. One is the arena of "others" (or the world out there), and the second is the arena of "self." These two arenas--Others and Self--each require their own particular way of functioning. Let's refer to the arena of others as "the red zone" and the arena of self as "the blue zone." Every day individuals have to function in both zones since they have to deal with others (red zone) and with oneself (blue zone).

The two zones (red and blue) can be either negative or positive. For instance, rage is in "the negative red zone" because it is the feeling of anger against someone or thing. Compassion is in "the positive red zone" because it is the feeling of tolerance and caring for someone or thing. Similarly, "the negative blue zone" includes depression and self-destructive behavior since these are negative feelings towards the self. "The positive blue zone" includes feelings of self-mastery and satisfaction since these are positive feelings towards the self. Figure 1 shows the 4 zones together in a circle model.

The above figure shows the 4 zones arranged in a circle. The upper half (zones 1 and 2) refers to others (and the world) while the lower half (zones 2 and 4) refers to self. Zone 1 is the negative red zone and is called Rage. Note that the zone includes the threefold-self: Feeling habits, thinking habits, and sensori-motor habits. Zone 2 is the negative blue zone and is marked Depression--also in three types of habits. Zone 3 is the positive blue zone and is called Mastery (or Self-Confidence). It too operates in affective behaviors (feeling), cognitive behaviors (thinking), and sensori-motor behaviors (acting or doing). Zone 4 is the positive red zone and is called resolve or zeal (or Compassion). Resolve or zeal is red hot like anger but it is more rational and tolerant; hence anger is negative while resolve or zeal is positive.

Note that the 4 zones with the threefold-self in each make up 12 settings arranged around a circle. This is called the emotional spin cycle because it maps out the cultural norms of behavior we acquire in socialization and divides them into these 4 main categories. It is like the spin cycle of a wash machine. By changing the settings you change the behavior or function of the machine. Similarly, to function as socialized individuals we acquire particular habits that run themselves off according to prescription (also called "social scripts" or "schemas"). We have the impression that we are acting on our own from ourselves, not realizing that we are just running off the social scripts we acquired as children and adults. We know this by comparing what people feel, think, and do in specific situations, and seeing they are so similar or equivalent. This proves that our feelings, thoughts, and actions are learned and standardized, shared by many in a society.

Here is the next figure (2). Look at the 12 settings of the daily emotional spin cycle we all go through.

The 12 settings are arranged in a circle from negative red, to negative blue, to positive blue, to positive red. The four zones are rage, depression, mastery, and resolve. The threefold-self operates within each zone: feeling, thinking, and doing.

How well do you know your own daily emotional spin cycle? There are two methods psychologists use to answer this question. One approach is to ask you to respond to various questions (or "personality scale items") and then comparing your answers to other people's answers or to some standards already established. This method raises reliability issues since the data depend on how accurate your responses are, or how well they represent what you really do. A second approach is to have you monitor your feelings, thoughts, and actions as they occur and make some sort of record of it for later analysis. This approach offers a better promise of being valid and comprehensive and is the method we will use for this report. The idea in a nutshell is for you to monitor your threefold-self at certain designated times during the day and recording which of the 4 zones you are in at the time of the self-observation. By doing this several times a day over a few days, you will be able to have the data on your emotional spin cycle.

The next figure (3) specifies the content of the 12 settings on your daily emotional spin-cycle.

More details about instructions and charts  in this article

Getting a Grip on Anger or Loosening the Grip of Anger
by Leon James and Diane Nahl

See other charts from this Workshop

 
LEVEL OF EMOTION

Cultural Personality Habit

(with built in resistance to change)

Leads to these consequences

Driving Personality Makeover:
installing de-escalation habits

(see lifelong AWM within
QDC support groups)

1
ANNOYANCE

[feeling inconvenienced by  drivers, cyclists, pedestrians, legislators, passengers, law enforcement, road crews, etc.]

[berating, name calling, insulting, ridiculing, complaining, rushing, breaking traffic rules, driving aggressively, etc.]

or lose self-esteem and be a wimp

installing supportive driving habits such as situational awareness, attitude of latitude, civility, teamwork mentality, cooperation

2
ANGER

[feeling endangered, thwarted, coerced, insulted, manipulated, ignored, etc.]

[punishing, retaliating, rectifying, venting, eye for eye, self-righteous indignation, feeling of superiority]

or lose control and let chaos reign

3
RAGE

[feeling injured, invaded,  dehumanized, delusional, attacked, etc.]

[killing, ramming, shooting, beating, tearing down]

or be destroyed

by Leon James and Diane Nahl

Transforming Negative to Positive

1

COMPETITIVE DRIVING
leads to
ANNOYANCE
&
STRESS

VS.

SUPPORTIVE DRIVING
leads to
CALM
&
SATISFACTION

2

ANGRY
DRIVING
leads to
HOSTILITY
&
FEAR

VS.

EMOTIONALLY INTELLIGENT DRIVING
leads to
COMPASSION
&
SECURITY

ROAD RAGE
DRIVING
leads to
VIOLENCE
&
BREAKDOWN

VS.

RESPONSIBLE
DRIVING
leads to
ALOHA SPIRIT
&
COMMUNITY
BUILDING