Question 2:  Is there a difference on how we perceive others in relation to ourselves regarding our emotional style?

Table 2
Ratings on a 10-point scale from least (=1) to most (=10)

Answer:

Table 2 shows that both men and women consider themselves more compassionate than other people (item 5 vs. item 6). The difference is statistically significant and amounts to a whopping 27 percent. Similarly, both men and women consider themselves to be higher on the good scale (item 7) than others (item 8). The difference is statistically significant and amounts to about 16 percent. With respect to anger the opposite trend is evident: both men and women see others as more angry (item 10) than themselves (item 9). The difference is only about 2 percent and does not reach statistical significance. We can conclude therefore that there exists a self-serving bias which leads people to see themselves as better than others, more compassionate, and less angry.

Question 8:  Is there a difference in experiencing rage?

Table 8

Item 11:  How often do you experience anger, rage, or hate?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how frequently they experience rage and anger. Although few people report feeling rage on an hourly basis, about a quarter of the women (29 percent) and a third of men (37 percent) experience rage every day. Of those who experience rage on a daily basis, more men do so than women  (56 percent vs. 44 percent).

Question 9:  Is there a difference in enjoying fantasies of violence?

Table 9

Item 12:  How often do you experience enjoying fantasies of violence?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how frequently they experience enjoying fantasies of violence. About 21 percent of people--one in five, have the experience of enjoying fantasies of violence on a daily or hourly basis. Of these people, 6 percent are women and 15 percent are men. Thus, twice as many men as women enjoy fantasies of violence on a frequent and regular basis (hourly or daily). Similarly, twice as many men as women enjoy fantasies of violence on a weekly basis (21 percent vs.11 percent). The vast majority of women (83 percent) rarely or never enjoy them, while only 64 percent of men say they rarely or never enjoy fantasies of violence. Evidently then, more men are involved in violent fantasies than women.

Question 10:  Is there a difference in feeling compassion for someone?

Table 10

Item 14:  How often do you experience feeling compassion for someone?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how frequently they experience compassion for someone. A majority of women (77 percent) and men (61 percent)  report feeling compassion for someone on a daily or hourly basis. Only 2 percent of women and 5 percent of men never or rarely feel compassion.

Question 11:  Is there a difference in feeling competitive?

Table 11

Item 15:  How often do you experience feeling competitive with others?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how frequently they feel competitive with others. About 35 percent of women feel competitive with others on a daily or hourly basis, while 56 percent of men feel that. About 29 percent of women consider themselves never or rarely competitive, while 21 percent of men feel that way. While it is expected for men to feel more competitive than women, it is interesting that one in five men (21 percent) rarely or never feel competitive. And while women are supposed to be less competitive, note that one in three (35 percent) feel competitive on a daily or hourly basis. Looking at the most competitive people--those who feel competitive on an hourly basis (about 14 percent of the population), almost twice as many are men as women (9 percent vs. 5 percent).

Question 12:  Is there a difference in feeling impatient with others?

Table 12

Item 17:  How often do you experience feeling impatient with others?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they feel impatient with others. Somewhat more men feel impatient with others than women on an hourly basis (14 percent vs. 10 percent), or on a daily basis (48 percent vs. 45 percent). About 10 percent of men and women report never or rarely feeling impatient with others. Women are expected to be more patient than men as social norm, but these results show that the majority of women feel impatient with others (55 percent) on a daily or hourly basis (and 62 percent for men).

Question 13:  Is there a difference in wanting to be rude?

Table 13

Item 20:  How often do you experience feeling like being rude, obnoxious or sarcastic to someone?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they feel like being rude, obnoxious or sarcastic to someone. Men outnumber women in wanting to be obnoxious or rude on a regular basis--hourly or daily (45 percent vs. 36 percent). This means that one in three women (36 percent) and almost half of all men (45 percent)  feel like being rude to someone on a daily or hourly basis. Only 29 percent of the population (men and women) say they rarely or never feel like being rude, sarcastic, or obnoxious to someone.

Question 14:  Is there a difference in feeling someone is stupid?

Table 14

Item 22:  How often do you experience feeling like someone else is stupid, dumb, an idiot, etc.?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they feel like someone else is stupid, dumb, an idiot, etc. One in ten women (10 percent) feel like denigrating someone on an hourly basis, thinking of them as dumb, stupid, an idiot. Even a higher percentage of men do so on an hourly basis (16 percent). On a daily or hourly basis, 45 percent of women and 60 percent of men feel like calling someone an idiot or some such derogatory epithet. While the majority of men (60 percent) confess to a desire to call people names on a regular basis (daily or hourly), almost half of women (45 percent) confess to it as well. Only 12 percent of men say they rarely or never feel this way, while 19 percent of women rarely or never feel like calling others various derogatory names.

Question 15:  Is there a difference in wanting to humiliate or insult someone?

Table 15

Item 24:  How often do you experience feeling like humiliating, disrespecting or insulting someone?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they feel like humiliating, disrespecting or insulting someone. About 13 percent of women feel like insulting someone on an hourly or daily basis, and 23 percent of men, or almost one in 4, feel that way. Almost twice as many men as women feel like humiliating or disrespecting someone on daily or hourly basis (23 percent vs. 13 percent). Seven out of ten women (70 percent) say they rarely or never feel like insulting someone, while 56 percent of men say that. Two percent of women and four percent of men feel like insulting someone on an hourly basis.

Question 16:  Is there a difference in feeling criticized or bullied?

Table 16

Item 27:  How often do you experience feeling criticized, picked on or bullied?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they feel criticized, picked on or bullied. About 16 percent of women feel criticized, picked on or bullied on an hourly or daily basis, while 14 percent of men, feel that way. The main difference between men and women on this item is how many say they rarely feel bullied or picked on: 55 percent of women, but 63 percent of men. There is a slight but significant difference (14 percent vs. 11 percent) in feeling bullied every day: 14 percent of women vs. 11 percent of men. About 19 percent of women and 21 percent of men say they feel like bullying someone on a recurrent basis (weekly, daily, or hourly)--this is item 28, not shown because the significance level is insufficient for the difference between men and women (p=.07 and .05 is the normal cut off point, so it's pretty close). In other words, one in five people--both men and women--feel like bullying someone on a regular basis.

Question 17:  Is there a difference in feeling discouraged or depressed?

Table 17

Item 29:  How often do you experience feeling discouraged or depressed?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they feel discouraged or depressed. About 29 percent of women and 26 percent of men  feel depressed on an hourly or daily basis. This is indeed a large number--more than 67 million American men and women report they are depressed on a daily or hourly basis, if we consider this sample of 1200 people representative of the American population, and while it is not fully representative it is representative enough to conclude that millions feel depressed on a daily basis.

Question 18:  Is there a difference in feeling out of control?

Table 18

Item 31:  How often do you experience feeling like you have no control over your emotions and that you cannot help feeling disturbed about things?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they feel like they have no control over their emotions and that they cannot help feeling disturbed about things. About 23 percent of women and 20 percent of men feel emotionally out of control on a daily or hourly basis. Only 46 percent of women and 57 percent of men say they rarely or never feel disturbed enough to be out of control emotionally. In other words, about half of our population feels disturbed and emotionally out of control on a recurrent basis--weekly, daily, or hourly: 54 percent of women and 47 percent of men.

Question 19:  Is there a difference in feeling inadequate?

Table 19

Item 32:  How often do you experience feeling that something must be wrong with you, that you are incompetent, inadequate, defective?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they feel that something must is wrong with them, that they are incompetent, inadequate, defective?. About 21 percent of women and 18 percent of men feel inadequate,  incompetent, or defective on a daily or hourly basis. A slight majority (52 percent of women and 60 percent of men) say they rarely or never feel inadequate or incompetent. In other words, about half of our population feels inadequate, defective, or incompetent on a recurrent basis--weekly, daily, or hourly: 48 percent of women and 40 percent of men.

Question 20:  Is there a difference in feeling angry when interfered with?

Table 20

Item 34:  How often do you experience feeling angry because someone tries to stop you from doing what you want?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they feel angry because someone tries to stop them from doing what they want. About 13 percent of women and 18 percent of men feel angry on a regular basis (daily or hourly) because someone tries to stop them from doing what they want. About one in four people (27 percent) feel angry on a weekly basis because someone tries to stop them from doing what they want: 26 percent of women and 29 percent of men). A majority of women (62 percent) and men (53 percent) rarely or never feel angry due to interference by others.

Question 21:  Is there a difference in feeling angry when hurt?

Table 21

Item 36:  How often do you experience feeling angry because someone hurts your feelings?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they feel angry because someone tries to hurt them. About 15 percent of women and 11 percent of men feel angry on a regular basis (daily or hourly) because someone tries to hurt their feelings. About one in three women (38 percent) feel angry on a weekly basis because someone tries to hurt their feelings (31 percent of men). A majority of men (58 percent) and almost half of women (48 percent) rarely or never feel angry because someone tries to hurt them.

Question 22:  Is there a difference in feeling angry when vilified?

Table 22

Item 37:  How often do you experience feeling angry because someone has talked badly about you behind your back?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they feel angry because someone has talked badly about them behind their back. Only about 8 percent of women and 8 percent of men feel angry on a regular basis (daily or hourly) because someone has talked badly about them behind their back, and about 75 percent (men and women) feel they never or rarely feel angry for this cause. About 15 percent of women and 19 percent of men feel angry on a weekly basis because someone tries to vilify them behind their back.

Question 23:  Is there a difference in feeling distracted?

Table 23

Item 40:  How often do you experience difficulty in making decisions, completing tasks, distractedness?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they experience difficulty in making decisions, completing tasks, or distractedness. One in four women (25 percent) and even a higher percent of men (30 percent) are experiencing difficulty on a regular basis (daily or hourly) in making decisions, completing tasks, or distractedness. The majority of the population (63 percent of women and 57 percent of men) experience distractedness or difficulty in making decisions and completing tasks on a recurrent basis (weekly, daily, hourly).

Question 24:  Is there a difference in feeling fearful, pessimistic?

Table 24

Item 41:  How often do you experience expecting the worst, constantly fearful of what might happen, pessimistic?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they experience expecting the worst, constantly fearful of what might happen, pessimistic. One in five women (20 percent) and even a higher percent of men (24 percent) are experiencing pessimism and fear about the future on a regular basis (daily or hourly). If you combine recurrent feelings (weekly, daily, and hourly), half of the population say they experience expecting the worst, constantly fearful of what might happen, and being pessimistic (46 percent of women and 49 percent of men).

Question 25:  Is there a difference in feeling demoralized, rejected?

Table 25

Item 42:  How often do you experience feeling alienated, disconnected, demoralized, disillusioned, neglected, rejected?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they are feeling alienated, disconnected, demoralized, disillusioned, neglected, rejected. About 13 percent of women and even a higher percent of men (19 percent) are experiencing feeling alienated, disconnected, demoralized, disillusioned, neglected, and rejected on a regular basis (daily or hourly). Two in three people do not feel this (about 61 percent), but the remaining one third of the population experience these negative feelings on a recurrent basis--weekly, daily, or hourly. About 1 in 10 people experience these feelings daily (10 percent of women and 13 percent of men).

Question 26:  Is there a difference in feeling miserable, crying?

Table 26

Item 45:  How often do you experience frequent crying, feeling miserable, feeling sorry for self?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they experience frequent crying, feeling miserable, feeling sorry for self. About one in three women (37 percent) and one in four men (25 percent) experience frequent crying, feeling miserable, feeling sorry for self on a regular basis--weekly, daily, or hourly.

Question 27:  Is there a difference in feeling unattractive?

Table 27

Item 49:  How often do you experience feeling dumpy, ugly, unattractive?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they experience feeling dumpy, ugly, unattractive. About two in three women (65 percent) and almost half of all men (44 percent) experience feeling dumpy, ugly, unattractive. About 30 percent of women feel unattractive on a daily or hourly basis, but only 20 percent of men. While only 35 percent of women rarely or never feel unattractive, the majority of men (56 percent) say they rarely or never feel unattractive.

Question 28:  Is there a difference in feeling critical?

Table 28

Item 50:  How often do you experience fault finding, score keeping, critical of everyone?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they experience fault finding, score keeping, critical of everyone. About 17 percent of women but 23 percent of men, experience fault finding, score keeping, and being critical of everyone on a regular basis (daily or hourly). If you combine the three answer types, half of women (49 percent) and the majority of men (58 percent) regularly feel critical of everyone--weekly, daily, or hourly.

Question 29:  Is there a difference in guilt or self-blame?

Table 29

Item 52:  How often do you experience excessive sorrow, grief, guilt, self-blame?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they experience excessive sorrow, grief, guilt, self-blame. About one in three people (34 percent of women and 30 percent of men) experience excessive sorrow, grief, guilt, self-blame on a recurrent basis (weekly, daily, or hourly). More men than women say they rarely or never experience it (70 percent vs. 66 percent).

Question 30:  Is there a difference in ruminating, exaggerating?

Table 30

Item 53:  How often do you experience ruminating, exaggerating, sulking?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in how often they experience ruminating, exaggerating, sulking. About 33 percent of women, but 40 percent of men, experience , ruminating, exaggerating, or sulking on a recurrent basis (weekly, daily, or hourly). More women than men say they rarely or never experience it (67 percent vs. 60 percent).

Question 31:  Is there a difference in retaliating and in aggressiveness?

Table 30

Item 57:  Do you agree or disagree with this statement: "It's not my fault if someone pushes my buttons and I do something to retaliate."?

Answer:

The above table shows a statistically significant difference between men and women in their tendency to retaliate when being angry or provoked. More men than women confess to this tendency (24 percent vs. 18 percent). Similarly, more men than women say they lose control of their behavior when they feel angry (28 percent vs. 22 percent--Item 66). More men say that anger interferes with their thinking than women (54 percent vs. 46 percent--Item 67). More men say that they worry about losing control of their anger (36 percent vs. 24 percent--Item 68).  More men say that they will hit back if somebody hits them (64 percent vs. 47 percent--Item 70).  More men say that they get into arguments when people disagree with them (25 percent vs. 19 percent--Item 71). More men say that their friends consider them hotheads (21 percent vs. 16 percent--Item 72).  More men say that they have purposely damaged property belonging to someone else (22 percent vs. 14 percent--Item 68).  It is clear that more men than women confess to a pattern of aggressiveness.